DH's Sister has finally pushed DH too far
DH's sister was at her very worst on Christmas. Her personality/behaviour, couldn't have been any uglier
Not only the usual stuff; doesn't greet us at all when we arrive (let alone actually say Merry Christmas) completely ignores us like we don't exist the complete and entire visit, etc.... etc.... but this time she was quite openly putting us down, rude comments, just itching for a fight it would seem
DH & I paid no attention to her whatsoever. We greeted everyone when we came in, wished everyone Merry Christmas, asked poor SSIL what we could do to help since he was running around doing everything
DH's sister and daughter ignored us, and sat together chatting and carrying on like they always do - going on and on and on about the big get together at BM's the evening before, how YSGS took his first steps at BM's last night, great get together at BM's - so very predictable.
But then they took it to a new level.
FIL opens a gift from OSD, it's for a restaurant they're going to take him out to for dinner. They're making a big deal about how it's all healthy food, then DH's sister says "Oh no, not like the "healthy" food Disillusioned and DH are eating now is it?" We brush it off. They continue
OSD says "oh no not at all like that, it's really good, and Mom (BM) really really really wants Poppa (FIL) to have a good time, take his time and enjoy himself that night, so she is going to take the kids (sgkid's)" then adds "isn't that great that Mom is going to do that Poppa" yada yada
Then she adds how YSD sent her a bunch of spices, things like curry and so on because YSD likes Indian food and thought OSD would too. DH pipes up and says how much we love Indian food too, that he can't eat it any longer, so Disillusioned has actually learned how to make his favorite dish at home, but a low fat/low sodium version of it. DH was talking to his daughter, but then DH's sister then starts to snap, she starts by going "okaaaay" in this 'how ridiculous' tone.
DH starts to take her bait just a little, then continues to talk to OSD and adds that it's delicious, that I do a great job of it. And then DH's sister very sarcastically, obviously very rudely does the drawn out "okaaaaaay" thing again, not even trying to hide how much she is putting us down. And of course she quickly adds how much she dislikes that type of food and was basically making it clear that SHE would never do anything so dumb as to actually proclaim to cook it at home too/doesn't believe I can actually cook it
Fortunately DH & I said nothing to her, it was getting time to leave, as we walked out the door we hugged SSIL and FIL good-bye, wished them Merry Christmas etc...I also said Merry Christmas to DH's daughter (who never even got up to say goodbye but sat with her back to us) and DH's sister who just stood there ignoring us, just before we left. DH said Merry Christmas to his daughter, but said nothing to his sister. And he is furious
I don't think DH will be talking to his sister for a very, very long time.
DH is not only furious that she has been excluding us from the family dinners - Thanksgiving, Christmas Eve, and now of course Christmas dinner too. And that she has been spending some of those events with BM instead. But her out of line openly rude comments about us - right in front of our faces - he is unable to say anything to her at the moment as they would probably both regret it for the rest of their lives. At some point - he is going to put her in her place and it will be so ugly. But for now, DH has chosen to walk away from her
She didn't so much as even send us a Christmas card this year - and that is a big deal in DH's family.
And even the smaller stuff, like the fact that DH looks absolutely great right now having lost over 20lbs. No mention from anyone about that, or more importantly how his health is (as it's for health reasons he has to do this)
And of course, since I'm eating pretty much the same as DH, I've lost over 10lbs, it really shows and I've had lots of compliments - but of course no mention from these people either - not that I don't catch them staring so they do notice. Just too nasty to show any manners or kindness of course
I'm used to this sort of thing from them, and know where it all stems from, so I can let it go. But it's eating DH up with anger right now. He is finally seeing the true colours of both his sister, and his daughter - in fact called them both a pretty nasty name to me afterwards - not the sort of word you use for your sister let alone your daughter - so I know he is real, real, mad right now.
There are a couple big family events coming up with DH's family soon, so it should be interesting how this goes...