Because I'm a woman/stepmom, when kids are with us, shd I be the one providing care? They have 2 qualified parents.
I have kids.. 3 grown. I love kids. Now 2 stepkids. They have a great participating mom.
I wanted to plan an "aunt" type of stepmom role.. because I'm so super close to my nephews & nieces.. I thought that would be a good perspective for us all. That was fast rejected when we married 2.5 years ago.
My husband works far away, long commute & custody is split 50/50. He expects me to care for the kids. drop off and pick up from school, dinner, etc. but I don't want to.
My husband and his family think I'm HORRIBLE, selfish, uncaring. I really don't know how to handle it.
Any input would be appreciated.. a way to explain maybe? they have 2 parents.. I'm supposed to be the fun one! Even my own 22 year old son says.. mom this is what you signed up for.. but I disagree.
the issue this week is that BM needs to go out of town for 5 days straight in Oct and again in Nov. He thinks I should drop off & pick up (leave work when they get out). I said i'll drop off or pick up if you do the other (he'd have to go in late). This is the cause of a HUGE FIGHT.