Uhm, he's posting to singles sites, looking for other women? having conversations with them? Telling them he's single?

If you need validation, that is enough to run, not walk, the other way.

Your husband is a fucktard. Period. Has nothing to do with his other child. He is a cheater, cheater, cheater.

I am sure you can do better.

This screams "sex addict" to me. My husband did the same crap until he reached rock bottom and got some help for himself. I know how you feel, I've been there. I had two instances of finding that type of crap and I was pregnant both times...sucks.

The first thing you need to do is get tested for whatever that idiot could bring home to you and your child!! Was this a whoops baby? Sounds like he is not ready to be a family. You have two choices. Stay or go.

The great thing about depression is that (many who choose to use the label for victim status may not realize it but) there are medications that can help with this! There are therapists that can help with this! There are behavioral and thought process changes that can help with this!

Cheating on your pregnant wife (emotional or physical, is there really that much of a difference?) is not caused by being depressed. It's caused by being a lying sack of SHIT.

Don't stay don't worry about raising your new baby by yourself I know many single moms successful and happy he is cheating on you! If not physically emotionally. Print out the stuff from the site hand it to him with a packed bag. This comes from a woman who tried for 10 years to save a marriage with a cheat. Cheating is selfish hurtful and the most damaging thing a person can do. I sometimes wish my ex had hit me rather than cheat. Then there's the chance of him getting std's or another woman pregnant. You are not in the wrong he chose to do this you didn't make him you didn't push him to it he chooses to do this.

The marriage is not in trouble - it is toast. over done finis

I'm sorry to read this. Sadly, I don't think the problem has ANYthing to do with your SD. I think this is all an issue with DH and your marriage. I know it sucks because you're preggo, but I suggest you really think about if this is the life you want.

I think that you are in denial...
I think that you think that your stepchild is the problem..
because you are in another land with your husband..

Ok SD is a pain the ass..
Ok your pregnant...
Ok go look at yourself in the mirror..
and get back to me on what you think you are
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You are a codependant

Wake up..you have a baby in your belly..

You deserver Better..

Your baby deservers better...

Your husband will be fine...
He does what he does when he wants to regardless of you anyway..

Question, why is he still in the house?

RUNNNNNN!!!

My ex was surfing the net and chatting online with all sorts of women. He would constantly have an excuse for me. He would blame me, his life ect. I stayed with him for 20 years.

One day "the other woman" called me. She was scorned because he was cheating on her with 6 other women at the same time. She told me that he said his marriage was over. He would tell me he wanted to work on our marriage, but his actions NEVER matched the words. Words are cheap.

If you have experienced this before with him, don't waste another moment with him. Give your baby boy a chance for a happy life with his mommy.

Make yourself happy, put yourself as a priority and everything else will fall into place. Save your son from making the mistakes of the father.

I know it's an emotional time for you but you sound like a strong woman. Your anger will help carry you to do positive things in your life. YOU deserve so much more

Hang in there!

I found myself in a similar situation, I met my BF online only to find out 6 months down the track that he was still online on other sites that I didnt know about chatting up women and saying he was a single dad.

The first time I confronted him with proof he couldnt refute although he did try, and talked rationally with him, he assurred me it was a flirting thing only and would never physically cheat. Then he promised that he would never do it again, changed the password on his email so I knew what it was and could check and told me I could check his phone whenever..........6 months later all the signs were back, I checked his phone Christmas night while he was asleep and bugger me, more messages from an unknown number back and forth. I SAW RED!! I went in and slapped him til he woke up, told him to pack his shit and fuck off. We talked about it not so rationally that night. Turns out because he actually never met the girl that he didnt see it as cheating because there was nothing physical, not that that's an excuse. At that point I made sure that he understood that it was emotional cheating and that I would still not tolerate it. If I ever caught him again that would be the end of us.

I have read the responses above and prior to meeting my BF my response would have been the same, and yet, I am still here. So, rather than just tell you to pack your stuff and run, let me ask you, do you feel as though you can confront him about it and talk about it rationally, or not so rationally and try to get your point across to him about how hurt and betrayed you feel by his actions? In the best case scenario could you ever learn to forgive him and rebuild the trust?

If the answer is no to either or both of the above questions then I suggest you do as the other posters have suggested and pack up your stuff and run.

I relied alot on my best friend. She is the only one that knew about what was going on (she wanted to seek revenge LOL bless her) and she was a great help in listening and helping me sort out in my own mind what i wanted. You definately need support, particularly since you are pregnant! But I do suggest that you pick your support people very carefully, people who will support your decision what ever that might be and if you do sort it out and decide to stay with your DH will try not to treat him differently because they knew what went on. If they do treat him differently, that can cause problems down the track.

I wish you luck. I am sorry you are going through this at a time that is supposed to be special for you!
xo

I would not stay. But then there are women who stay with men who beat the shit out of them. I refuse to submit to beatings whether they are physical or emotional. But some women can. I'll never understand it.

I have to admit Bestwife that prior to meeting my BF I wouldnt never have stayed with someone who beat me emtionally or physically, no one should have to put up with that shit!! I also believe in chances, however, he is on his last chance so for myself, if it EVER happens again, I am out, no questions no answers and no chance of justifications, I will just pack him up leave it on the front lawn and change the locks!!

With or without him it sounds as if you will not lose his family. That is wonderful because what you need now is supportive people around you who love and care about you and the baby. Clearly you do not have that with him, but you do have it with the family. Go where the grass is greener, the family. There is probably little point of him sticking around until the baby is a month or so old, if he wants to support you and the baby he can so from another planet if he genuinely wants to, he doesn't have to sleep in your bed.

However, first concern is what another poster suggested, get yourself tested for the baby's sake, he lied about seeing other women there is really no reason (other than it would make you feel better) to believe he did not sleep with them. Just be on the safe side.

All the best.