Sounds like a BM trying to control the ex by using the kids as pawns. I am not sure how to handle this situation. But just wanted to tell you to hang in there!

In a perfect world their would be retroactive abortion capabilities. ~ disgusted

Although the "children" that were being brainwashed by their mother were 18 and 20. Yours are being brainwashed and alienated at a such a young age...it's downright abusive!!

My SO's boys mother insisted in phone calls, emails, letters, (that she would send SO but copy the boys on)...that their dad no longer cared about them because I was in his life. She has always made it appear to be a black and white situation...my SO had to choose between me or his kids. And if he chose me, he must not care about his kids. It is just a BM control tactic. And the best advise I could give is just to hang in there. You and your boyfriend. Don't let him give up calling his sons and it's good that he reassures them of his love, yet lets them know you are in his life and are not going anywhere.

I never thought things would get better with my SO's sons because the conflict was so horrible, damaging, manipulative and at times downright evil...but they have gotten better week by week, month by month. Their mother finally realizes I'm not going anywhere, and they now realize they can have a great relationship with their dad even though he wouldn't leave me.

It's really a heartbreaking situation, and I feel for you! I hope things get better soon.

There isn't anything that you can do about this. Sit back and let the BF handle it and it sounds like he is doing a fantastic job. He needs to keep on telling them that he isn't going to chooose because he cares about all 3 of you too much.
It is pathetic that some people continue to play the high school games long after school is over. Its very sad for the kds but they won't always be little and they can make more choices for themselves.

basically. The never straight out said those words to DH but they've both, several times, told him how they feel like they don't have a daddy anymore. He puts me above everything, he never does anything with them since he's been with me, all the rules changed (even though he says they are full of crap), blah blah blah. It's a power struggle. Who does he love more kind of thing. It's stupid, but kids often think stupid stuff! That's why us parents shouldn't be encourging that kind of statements. But with a Beast Bitch of a BM, like the one you've mentioned above, you are going to have a hard time.

Hang in there. Beast Bitch will soon learn that you haven't left screaming through the night and will come up with a different, hurtful, and new way to mess with you and your DH. How much you want to bet that next she'll want the kids to come stay with yall for a few months? They tend to go from one extreme to the other!

to say it, but thought it as well...once you overcome one BM control tactic, she'll just dish out another if you have an obsessive BM. Ours still tries her best to control and manipulate our lives and the boys affections, but we've found the best thing we can do is totally ignore her, and luckily for us the kids are now old enough that we can do so. She once had a bite that seemed as big as a crocodiles, now she's just a little nippy, irritating, junkyard dog.