Dear Valued Users,
It's with a heavy heart that we announce the permanent closure of StepTalk.org on August 31st, 2025.
This decision wasn't an easy one. For over twenty years, StepTalk has been a source of support for stepparents around the world! However, over the years, the costs associated with maintaining and upgrading the site to remain secure, meet current standards and maintain availability have become unsustainable.
We are incredibly grateful for your support, contributions and the community you've helped us build. Your engagement has made StepTalk.org a special place and we cherish the memories and connections made here.
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Sincerely,
Dawn and The StepTalk Team
I solve that problem by never
I solve that problem by never going into public with the skids EVER. They embarrass me to much for that.
I never go anywhere with my
I never go anywhere with my bf's kids either. They have never even been in my car. Why? Their daddy has a car. His time with them is for him not me.
Yep, I don't want anyone to
Yep, I don't want anyone to think that I raised such ignorant kids!
THIS!
THIS!
Every time you write 'SD55'
Every time you write 'SD55' ...I groan internally. :O
Thankfully, no one has ever
Thankfully, no one has ever said that to my face. PigPen is such a dirt magnet, I'd be extremely embarassed for anyone to think he's mine or that I'd allow my kid to go out looking like he does. I'd probably be frozen in horror and unable to speak if someone said that to me!
i avoid being in public with
i avoid being in public with SD14 as much as possible. i dont want anyone to think I raised her to be rude and eat food with her fingers, and sit at the table with her feet underneath her.
Not a problem for me. Due to
Not a problem for me. Due to skin tone and hair, no one would ever think skids are mine. I am extremely light skinned with red hair and DH and skids are dark with dark hair.
Hey, I found one positive about my situation. Yeah me.
I hate that too! It's petty
I hate that too! It's petty I know but whatever, I'm not perfect. I think SD is a hideous child, she's obese and has resting bitchy face literally her mouth always makes a frown. Mostly I just don't want strangers thinking that I am raising an obese child that can't be polite because it is a representation of me as a person and that is why it bothers me. I don't ever correct people but sometimes I dream of wearing a shirt saying "the shortest one isn't mine." Lol.
Luckily though SD really doesn't look like me at all so it doesn't happen a whole lot. However DH has to deal with this because my kids strangely resemble him to the point that his brother jokes with him that my DS might be his. (hes not. Lol)
Gosh I never had to say
Gosh I never had to say anything.
When SS was younger, if any stranger would dare make the assumption that SS was my son. SS would go freakin' balistic!
"HE'S NOT MY DAD!!! HE'S MY STEP-DAD!"
Seriously, he would shriek. You'd think the stranger was trying to saw off his limb or something.
Now days it's not a problem.
Now days SS and I are mistaken for nefarious looking (but bumbling) thieves (see my blog for context).
I usually put physical
I usually put physical distance between myself and SD to make it clear "not mine." Especially when she's wailing and being a general menace in public places. }:)