Vent about BM
DH and BM agreed that SD would stay with us during the week for school and BM would take SD on weekends. They made that agreement 3 weeks ago and this is already the 2nd weekend we have had an issue.
The first weekend, BM said she couldn’t take SD that weekend because she was working. The second weekend, she did take her. Now today, BM is telling DH she can’t take SD again tonight because she is working.
She said the only way she can take SD is if DH drives all the way down there to drop her off with BM’s mom (they live 2 hours away and normally meet halfway). OR DH can meet BM’s brother (a convicted felon without a driver’s license) halfway to drop SD off with him. What kind of freaking options are they??
I am furious. DH and I had plans tonight. We had SD all week and I really need a break. I’m so angry that this POS ex-girlfriend controls our life like this.
We must have the same BM in
We must have the same BM in our lives.
Babysitter.
Babysitter.
Does BM have a job that
Does BM have a job that requires her to work weekends? If so I would not be counting on her as being too reliable during this time.
My Ex is a Server (I digress on this subject) and I pretty much know he has to work weekends to make his money so I can't really count on him to keep BS8 on the weekends. He also lives 45 minutes away and that is an issue in meeting up, driving, etc.
If you think that she is going to be working on the weekends or not reliable in picking up/dropping off SD then I would reconsider your options.
The thing was, DH and BM used
The thing was, DH and BM used to have week on/week off (50/50). When SD started school, that obviously didn't work because BM lives 2 hours away. So DH and BM agreed that DH keep SD during the week for school and BM get her on weekends.
BM does work in fast food so I'm sure her schedule does include weekends, but she agreed to take SD every weekend since DH would be keeping her all week, every week. I just feel like if she isn't able to watch SD on her day, she needs to get a babysitter, not just not take her and assume she can stay with us. We had plans, & this isn't the first time she has pulled this crap.
I'm so angry that I went and reported her for welfare fraud- why should she be entitled to government assistance when she only has her kid 2 days a month??!
Regarding the CO, they still technically have week on/week off. The new agreement was just made amongst themselves until their hearing for custody modication (Oct 14).
DH won't get a babysitter.. I
DH won't get a babysitter.. I told him he needs to stop letting BM's actions affect me.. Like if she won't pick up SD on her day and we have plans, he needs to get a babysitter so that it doesn't affect me. Granted, I think BM should be the one getting the babysitter, but I know that's not going to happen. She will just not pick her up and make us deal with it.
BM doesn't need a babysitter,
BM doesn't need a babysitter, she has you and DH.
Exactly smh. I don't
Exactly smh. I don't understand why she thinks she can just tell DH she can't take SD on her day to take SD. I guess because DH allows it.
Fucking wench, too bad we
Fucking wench, too bad we couldn't just drop the skids on their damn doorsteps, your turn, NOT my problem lol...oh the joys of being with a man with bitch and brat baggage! :sick:
Oh I know!! I would love
Oh I know!! I would love that!! I can be understanding every once in a while, but they just made this arrangement 3 weeks ago and this is the second weekend she "can't" take SD. We have her all damn week, and the only reason I agreed to that (not that it matters if I agree, but I did agree) is because we were supposed to have the weekends free. Well so much for that idea.
Edited to add: The other issue is that BM told DH last minute that she can't take SD, so she really didn't give us any time to make arrangements. I think she did this on purpose. She told DH she's going to ruin his life and his marriage and I think she is purposely trying to ruin our plans.
Yup, BM told DH she is going
Yup, BM told DH she is going to ruin his marriage and his life. :jawdrop: