We're a new step family and in dire need of advice!!!
I am the biological mum to my two kids aged 10 and 13. My partner has now moved in with us and we have been trying for another baby. My kids have coped with the new set up amazingly well and are slowly accepting my new partner into the home. The problem is that my partner has some very strict ideas about how the household should be run and he expects the kids to pull their weight more. We've talked about this in depth and agreed a rota of chores that was acceptable eg. kids tidy rooms, help out generally which is all fine. The kids have been doing more and sticking to the rules except now my partner is complaining that they're not cleaning to a high enough standard and it feels like the goalposts are being shifted as we go on.
For example, my 10 year old son had a bath last night and cleaned up after himself with some prompting from me however he left a flannel lying in the bath which I hadn't noticed. Cut to this morning...my partner was in a real mood about it and said he wasn't sure if we should be trying for a baby because he does not want his child to be untidy like my kids. He has done this on several occasions and each time I feel he's attacking my kids and my parenting and I'm on the point of going back on the pill and forgetting the whole idea of trying for another baby...something he says he really wants most of the time until my kids make a slip up or miss a bit of tidying up.
Will someone please tell me if I am being unreasonable in my lack of understanding here?