Since I am new here I will give a bit of background. I am a bio-mom to a 6 year old girl and have 2 step-sons ages 6 and 8. My husband and I have only been married a bit over a month (but were together over a year before getting married). He and his ex-wife (BM to both the boys) were divorced many years before I came along. They have a wonderful co-parenting relationship with 50/50 timesharing. I am very happy that they get along and she and I get along as well.

This is my issue/question. Her birthday is coming up and my husband says he always gets her something for her birthday...not just from the boys, from him. Nothing extravagant, just a bottle of wine. I am not really sure how I feel about it. My initial reaction was to be upset about it. It seems a bit over-board. Maybe I am just being sensitive and its not a big deal. What do you all think? Is this crossing the line between being friendly and civil for the sake of the kids? Am I over-reacting in thinking this is inappropriate? Do I just deal with it and move on?

Thanks for any advice!