Prior to meeting DH, in addition to my FT job, I worked part time at a local stable teaching horseback riding lessons.

I did this for a couple of reasons - 1. It's my passion and 2. It paid the bills for my daughters horse.

When I met DH, his youngest son wanted to learn to ride. So, I made some arrangements and began to attempt to give him lessons. First he didn't want to ride the style the stable focused on - English, which is mainly jumping. He wanted to ride like the cowboys - Western. My horse could do either, but I didn't have the western equipment, so I borrowed some from an old friend..

I really tried to teach him - he was 8 at the time. It wasn't working as he wouldn't listen. It was supposed to be a lesson, not screw off on the horse or in the barn time. When finally it became too much of an issue and a distraction to others at the barn, I had to tell DH we need to have someone else teach him.

So we did.. he went to about 8 lessons and got bored with the pace of group lessons. Oh well, we can't afford 45/lesson for private ones, so either you do group or you don't ride. Around this same time, he started football, so all interest in riding went away.

My daughter rode until she was 6 - she fell off her horse (did not get injured what so ever) and her father flipped out.. she wanted to still ride, but was a little fearful and he fed that beast until she was terrified to get on a horse.. A year went by and I finally gave up hope and sold her horse.

Fast forward to about 3 months ago. SS is 12 and my daughter is 11.

SS plays football and the majority of summer and all of fall is occupied by this.

My daughter plays soccer, but really isn't in love with it. 3 months ago she tells me "I want to ride again and I want to compete like you did, mommy.." and my heart literally jumped out of my chest I was so happy!! Ever since she was born I had dreams of her riding and competing.

Since I have a lot of connections, I immediately reached out and found a horse that she could not only ride, but I could give her lessons on as well. She had to do all the chores like clean the stall in order to have this privilege and she agreed to do them.

So I tell DH about it.. his first response "well, ss12 wants to ride too."

I'm like "he has football and this is her sport that she wants to compete in. It's not just to play around. She wants to learn and get good. Plus this isn't my horse - it's a friends. SS12 can't just hop on it as he doesn't know how to ride and I am not giving him lessons."

I told him ss12 can come up and help with chores and hop on the horse and walk it around, but that's it.

If my daughter liked football would I expect him to take her to ss12's practices so she could have her fun and take focus away from the practice? No, that is an unfair expectation.

Plus, ss12 stopped riding because he lost interest, now all of a sudden because my daughter wants to, he is expected to be allowed to do it too?

Not to mention the fact that ss12 has a very obvious dislike for me and does whatever he can to make my life hell.. the times I have taken him to the barn when a friend of mine would need help, ss12 was a major pain in the ass and drove everyone there up the freaking wall. He simply would not listen and follow directions and when it comes to 1200lb animals that can be dangerous, you ass had better follow directions or you or someone else will get hurt.

So now I am being made out to be a bitch because my daughter asked to take lessons again and I found her a horse to ride, and didn't find one for ss12.

ughhhhh...