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tired of this situation..

prettyinpink's picture

I get along with my SD13 very good but I still don't agree that she deserves special treatment just because she doesn't live with her dad, everytime she is with us my husbands mood goes from just normal to super happy n excited all of a sudden he has all the time n energy for the kids n he laughs at their jokes watch's their shows n if not for me pleases her with everything n of course he is not like that with our kids..they only get what they want for special ocasions n if i wanna do something for them we dont have money n yet she gets what a person pays rent for an apt n that doesn't bother him..i just cant stand that he pictures her as lil miss perfect n is happier when she is with us..yet she is so material listick if what we are doing on her weekend aint worth it to her she doesn't come she clearly shows that material is more important than cherishing her time with her dad n brothers..my poor kids ADORE their dad n they dont get half the things or attention she does..I truly feel that if he had to he would def. Choose her over us.. it saddens me n pisses me off cause when she gives him her fake excuses we have to put up with him being upset n yet he still gives her special treatment..I'm getting very tired of this..

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Anne Boleyn's picture

I don't think that would fix it. And personally, I wouldn't want the kids around more if he can't demonstrate that he can adequately parent just a few days a month. I recently agreed to increase time here but only after he started stepping up, enforcing bed times, making them do stuff without blaming me, etc....

prettyinpink's picture

Agree!! I wouldn't mind if she spend more time with us if he was fair but he isn't n also she tends to forget I'm here n thinks she can boss my kids around which bothers me because its my kids house n she thinks when she is here everything should revolve around what she likes also I've caught her lying to get her ways n who is to blame for that..my point ecxactly..

prettyinpink's picture

I dont think thats a reason for him to give his daughter special treatment over our kids n what is worse my kids notice the dif. N have told me that their daddy loves her more..he is both their dad n he neefs to b fair..all he is doing is making her grow uo with the wrong mentality..

Anne Boleyn's picture

I've seen hundreds of posts where the SK lives there 50, 75, 100% of the time and it doesn't make the dad less of a Disney Dad. You are right.

prettyinpink's picture

I bet mine would too..so no thank u..sometimes I wonder if I were to seperate fr. My hubby would he b like that with our kids too..

prettyinpink's picture

I only have a SD13 n yeah i was thinking of that.. if this continues i will to avoid getting upset lol