Will she ever move out?
I hope it is okay that I am in this group because my boyfriend and I aren't married.
We have lived together for a while now. A month ago - his daughter (24 years old) moved in because she broke up with her latest boyfriend whom she was living with. I HAVE LOST ALL CONTROL OVER MY HOME AND ALL PRIVACY. RELATIONSHIP WITH BF is taking a big toll. UGH!
Her mother called my BF and said that she needed to stay with us because it was an awful relationship that the SD is in and she was in danger. Turns out - that wasn't true. She was expected to pay rent there and didn't have a job. Supposedly, she needs to stay here because EX WIFE was waiting on closing on a new house. I told my BF that, of course, she could stay with us termporarily. We have a small townhouse with only one living area and 2 1/2 baths. SD is living in english basement, but has to use bathroom in hall right outside our bedroom. This leaves little to no privacy. Well - EX closed on house almost a month ago now and there is no movement. BF doesn't want her to feel unwelcomed so he won't talk to her about when she will be moving out. I am currently hiding in my bedroom most of the time because I am dealing with a lot of personal/health issues that I don't want to share with other people. Also BF has been more argumentative with me since she has been here.
I work from home, am dealing with a chronic illness, and have to clean up after everyone. Usually, dishes are my job in our house. SD leaves hers in the sink, doesn't say thank you when I cook for everyone, doesn't help with anything here. She doesn't work. Isn't really interested in working unless it is her dream job. Still gets gas money from BF. Doesn't contribute in any way.
When I broched this subject with my BF, he says that he thinks she will leave soon. He thinks that the reason she doesn't want to move to her Mom's is that they don't get along anymore. Her Mom has rules at her house. Requires her room to be clean, to help with common household chores, and to have a job. Dad doesn't require any of those things. When I expressed my displeasure and disagreement with that situation, BF accuses me of not liking his children. It has caused so much stress over the last month that I am just want to stay in my bedroom and avoid more stress.
I can't ask any real questions about what is happening. Do you think that is okay? I know this probably seems like a small issue to many of you. I have read a lot of threads here. I just need some peace in my life again. I have enough problems without a 24 year old kid who acts more like a 16 year old living here. *BTW - BF says that she is immature and is convinced it is a mental health thing without any evidence of it. It just seem likes she is getting a free ride in life and loves it.