KARMA rains DOWN!!!!
SO, DD18 is here for thanksgiving break, and has to leave on saturday morning. SD17 wanted to be here because her and DD sorta kinda get along (DD18 can only tolerate for short spurts, DD19 and SD don't get along at all). WELL, SD18 is on 12yo brother babysitting duty for her mom. so she can't come until saturday... but DD18 has work on saturday so she HAS to leave in the morning.
I say KARMA because SD has made SEVERAL statements about how her mom NEVER tells her no about coming to visit, how DH NEVER asks for more time, or to split holidays so that he spends time with SD... WHICH IS ALL LIES. DH HAS asked on several occasions to spend more time with SD, BM ALWAYS said no, so DH stopped asking. but DH ALWAYS lets BM have SD early, or splits his holidays with SD because BM opens with "I think it's SD's best interest that she spend half of the holiday with me because *insert some strange uncle that SD never gets to see (forget all the family we have on this side of the family that also only gets together on holidays)* but because it has been presented as "in SD's best interest" DH allows it (and BM KNOWS THAT). But now that SD is 17, has a car and a drivers license, and SD is wanting to come, NOW SD is being told no LMAO.
ASIDE FROM THAT HILARITY! SD was being left home alone at 12, and DH had a FIT over it (there is literally a jail RIGHT NEXT TO HER HOUSE, and you can wave to people from the windows in SD's back yard), SD's bedroom window has been broken, there's been beer bottles left in the bush infront of SD's bedroom window (not SD's, it was back when SD was like 7 or 8). But NOW the brother is too young to be left by himself... So now SD can watch him... so it's just all funny to me.
I told DH (back when SD was going into middle school she was given the option by BM to go to school with DDs or where BM's house is zoned) that since I had started working from home I would be here so she wouldn't go home to an empty house, and I would make snacks and assist with homework just as I did with my own (this was well before I disengaged). But BM wanted SD to THINK that she had the choice. she kept persuading her talking about how her middle school by her house sounded like Harry Potter movie, they were broken down into Houses (middle schools here are broken into groups so each grade level would have 3 or 4 groups to make switching classes easier). And that if she went to DDs school that her class rank would be lower because of all the smart people at her school (yes she basically told SD that she was dumb). But SD being a Harry Potter fanatic, was enough persuasion to make her choose to go home alone every day and stay at the school her mom's house was zoned to. Looking back I am GLAD she stayed there... I don't think I could take SD everyday!
and yet, SD's brother is too young to do the same LMAO