Anyone have experience with keeping families seperate under one roof...
Curious what the groups thoughts on this are...
We seem to have settled on the basic idea, that it is both easier and better to punt on trying to make one blended family unit be a goal, and instead keep the existing 2 that moved in. We have seperate dinners, seperate activities etc... We take as many or more couples trips, and existing family trips each, then we do blended family trips.
There are numerous reasons for this, but the primary catalyst I beleive is her sons autism, ADHD, mood disorders etc make it impossible for group functioning on a routine basis to be anything other then exhausting and terrible. The other probably biggest catalyst is I have 3 kids of varying ages 11, 8, and 3 and it just truly requires a lot more time and work, and if we tried to make a setup where responsibilites are even, that would mean shifting a bunch of stuff from me to her.
We both believe we have the ability to make special outings, group activities, and/or a family vacation work from time to time, but the daily stuff, or making it our primary group setting just isn't gong to happen.
As a couple, we get along really well, and I'm just curious if this is batshit crazy or not. I love spending time with my kids, and I love spending time with her. I tolerate the big group, probably better then she does... but I can say with honesty it is far from my favorite thing to do.
Anyone have experience trying a setup similar to this? Advice?