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Biostep7777's picture

Our HCBM is beyond!!! Every therapist she has seen has stated she has borderline as well as a narcissist. She is sadistic and just has zero empathy. ZERO. She has done some sick sick things to other parents, teachers, coaches and even children. All she does is lie. She lies about everything. 
So, with that in mind my husband documents everything and I mean everything. He writes everything down. He logs into OFW at every pick up and drop off and activity because she states he's "always late" (not true) we take lots of videos (which has proven her lies before) and he has taken some pictures of her at sporting events because she claims to wear a mask everywhere and that she takes covid seriously which she doesn't at all!! She refuses to vaccinate the kids and allows them to not wear masks anywhere and she has never worn a mask so he documented that. She also claimed he's always on his phone at games. This woman has taken her whole laptop to games and sits there and does work. She is ALWAYS on her phone so yep... he took pictures to document that. So yesterday he has his deposition and her lawyer made him out to be creepy for taking pictures (he put them in discovery because that is specifically why he took them! To document) Mind you there were like 4 pictures of her and like 200 of the kids, activities, events, vacations, ect.. 

Her attorney was like "does your wife know you constantly take pictures of your ex wife?" DH was like "first off, I do not constantly take pictures of her. I have snapped a couple to show her hypocrisy and her lies. Second, of course my wife knows and she completely understands why. Nobody likes to have to do this but because she lies and makes false accusations all the time, I need to document to protect myself and my family" 

Ugh!!!! The whole thing is crazy making. So, this is going to be her new thing. That DH is creepy and sneaking pictures of her. I just can't. 

CastleJJ's picture

The whole point of a deposition and her attorney's tactics are to try to discredit or gain information to use against DH, hence making him out to be a "creep". It sounds like your DH handled it well. Nobody wins in family court except lawyers and judges. 

As many have said before, you and DH need to figure out how far you are willing to take this. You know HCBM will never change and never improve, so outside of "not giving up on the kids" and the financial shift you are looking to make, what is the point? 

Biostep7777's picture

Well we have trial next month. Can't give up now. We need this court order.  She's just gross and I needed to vent. Lol! 

Rags's picture

And even if you do "win" you still leave feeling the need for a high pressure scalding hot shower to wash the skeeve off of your skin.  Everthing about family law court is skeevy.  The judge, the lawyers (even your own at some level), the opposition..........

They never got what they wanted, we always got almost everything we wanted. And still the skeeve was strong during the whole process.

Clarity is instant when the moron in the black Harry Potter robes slinging the Fischer-Price wooden hammer says "I hope everyone feels better. Now I am going to do what I always do."