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Merrigan's picture

I found my breaking point a few weeks ago with my bf and his kids. It’s semi okay now, but I’ve pulled back from spending as much  time at his place, and he’s doing his detective thing to figure out why. We had a discussion about it, but it’s been hard for him to digest.

His family all approached me at a big get-together to ask me how I deal with his kids, his ex, and their parenting, and to please stay with him.  It was overwhelming. I told him that and said I needed some time to think.  I’ve only seen him twice since then, by my choice.   

I’m going over to his place to see his kids for one night tomorrow.  All my boundaries are supposed to be in place.  

Not sure what else to say. 

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Merrigan's picture

I did for one night, but that wasn’t what broke me. I’ll post about it eventually.  We’re still together, but I’m very happy to be still living on my own.  

No chance on living together now without my conditions being met. 

Siemprematahari's picture

His family all approached me at a big get-together to ask me how I deal with his kids, his ex, and their parenting, and to please stay with him. It was overwhelming.

Intrusive and crossing boundaries much???? What family gets together and begs a person to remain with someone that they left?? I guess they have no idea the reasons why you walked and if they do they just don't care. That alone is disturbing to me.

Merrigan's picture

Oh sorry, might be my wording.  He was with his ex for a long time, and his family and she didn’t get along.  They plied me with a lot of wine and cheese and said how happy they are that I’m with him, how unhappy they are with his ex and their kids together, and then they asked me to please not leave him.  We’ve been together as bf and gf now about three years.  

hereiam's picture

Makes you wonder why they are so desparate for you to stay with him.

I mean, I want my family members to be happy but I can't imagine begging someone to not leave the relationship. None of my business.