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MayCorine85's picture

So I am to the point where I honestly just want to run away when SD comes over. I already have 1yr old twins that keep up alot, but when SD comes it goes from 50% to 120% hyped. It just too much for me after dealing with kids at my job all day. It also seems like DH gets extra hype and looks at me like im just over exaggerating about all the extra. He changes, my house vibe changes.....it just so much! Does anyone else feel like this? Am I a bad person for feeling like this...just so tired. This is so much more than I ever thought

 

Rags's picture

Infant twins, a demanding DH and a Skid.

This is not a sustainable situation if you and DH cannot get on board as equity life partners.  It sounds to me that DH is missing the plot and is failing to be an equity life partner for you.

Time for a come to Jesus meeting to give him clarity.

Take care of you.

Harry's picture

Is when DH is home or he takes her.  Your not the babysitter.  Make DH take charge, of SD. He cooks and cleans after her.  SD should not be bouncing off the walls.  That DH job to keep her carm. Or SD is st BM.   That does not mean DH is spending 100% of his time with SD.  He has other kids to take care of 

shamds's picture

behave or she’s interrupting her siblings sleep and you’ll be exhausted. If your husband is refusing to address this and ensure appropriate action is taken, he’s a shit parent.

believe me when my daughter and first born was a few weeks old, ss then 17.5 would open and slam his bedroom door till the surrounding bedroom doors vibrated and it was so loud my daughter instantly woke up.

i was furious and pissed off and messaged hubby at work that he sort this shit out now. Bubs was sleeping happily finally that i could maybe make myself a late breakfast in the early afternoon or a cup of coffee or even a shower but dickwit needed to be a total arsehole dick and slam doors on purpose 

he claimed thats him opening doors normally. Hubby told him to be considerate and respectful of others. He started opening and closing doors alot more gently and bubs slept but he would often exaggerate to daddy how my daughter cried all the time like i was neglecting her. Lucky my hubby never gave 2 cents to ss exaggeration and new it was total rubbish

Lux's picture

As stepmoms we try our best to be “the better person” or “take the higher ground,” but it wears us down sometimes to the point we lose ourselves and/or change in ways that are out of character for us. I recommend setting boundaries and accepting that you are in no way responsible to care for SD. She has two parents, do yourself a favor and let that be. Focus on your kids and self love through this. 

Personally, I’d leave if SD came over and it wasn’t a healthy environment. It’s better than staying and being stressed out. 

caitlinj's picture

It is not a sustainable situation to be a step mother to someone else’s difficult children and be a wife to an unreasonable demanding partner who is the parent of those children. It might work for awhile but eventually it gives out.