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I have been struggling with my SD almost from the beginning. Her father has always had full custody of her. I have a BD from a previous marriage as well so we were a blended family from the beginning. My SD has been in my life since she was 7 - she is now 14. Her mom isn't really in the picture as she lives in another state. Everything was great at first - back then I got along with my SD really well. My BD was 4 at the time. I found out I was pregnant a few months after we got together and since that moment she has always been hateful to me. It started out little, but grew with each day and year. Now it's to the point where it is causing major issues between me and her dad. I have nightmares about fights with her. I'm usually a very easy going well liked person, but something about my SD gets under my skin and she is the ONLY person who can push all of my buttons.
I'm to the point where I feel broken and feel like I can't be a good mom to my other kids because so much of my effort goes into her. I'd appreciate any tips or stories from those of you who have been through the same thing.