he is sooooooo tired that he can't stay up past eight most night BUT.....

I guess I am just a little sad today. SO can't seem to keep his eyelids open most of the week past 8pm. He works 6:30am to 2:30pm....... And sometimes he is ready for bed by 7:30pm. BUT on the nights he goes for his "guy" time (every wednesday night) it gets later and later. First few weeks he was home by 8:30. Don't get me wrong I 100% trust him. I know who he is with where he is etc. Last night it was 10:45 before he got home. I had gone to bed. I guess I just don't get it. All this energy for stuff on Wednesday nights but sex is only on Fridays cuz he is ohhhh so tired all the time. And he can't bear to stay up past 8pm most nights cuz he is ooooooh so tired.

I often wonder what he would do if I decided on Wednesday nights I'm going with the girls to do girl stuff. Leave all the kids with him. And each week gradually it becoming later and later with no regard to who is at home etc. I have no issue with him having time to himself to do something for him. I think everybody needs that. But I do have an issue with the fact that the other six days a week he is too tired for ANYTHING........ just pisses me off to be blunt.

We of course aren't talking today because clearly I pissed him off by not answering his text when he texted at 9:30 saying he was going to be later.... cuz he was stopping at his parents house. I didn't know what to say to it so I didn't text back then an hour later he replies Ok sounds good.... WTF is that? To me that was smart ass. So I texted back and said I didn't send anything. Then of course he didn't reply. OMG I just refuse to play that game. Sorry. I'm 37 and not engaging in a text fight over me not replying.

I guess I'm just wondering where our can't wait to see you life went. Can't wait to talk to you life. Can't wait to touch you life. Can't wait to do just about what ever with you....... it makes me sad to think I'm at this point only 2 years in. What will it be like in 5 years?

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he felt guilty for being away

he felt guilty for being away and wanted validation from you via text.
As far as the sex, my bf is super focused on a huge project right now so he can't do that and think about sex.

At least you get it on Friday, I've not been able to shake down my bf for sex in about 4 1/2 weeks.

I'm not sure how long I can live like this It's not what I thought we had going so I totally get what you're feeling.

momagain... 4 1/2 weeks and

momagain... 4 1/2 weeks and he can't think about sex.... I doubt it. Not to stir things up but I would be questioning this big time.

I'm not validating his guilt

I'm not validating his guilt for anything. If he feels guilty well then why are you doing it... that's how I feel. My SO life isn't rough..... he is off work at 2:30pm. He isn't doing projects for a home because we have no home we live in an apartment. There are no broken down cars to fix. All he has on his to do list is to get the bunkbeds put up so skids aren't sleeping on our floors. I don't know what his focus is on besides all the DRAMA with TWO baby mama's that we deal with on a daily basis.
I guess I just am sorta pist off about it all. Friday sex..... seriously he comes home and is on me like flies on shit. And I'm so angry that that's the day he has designated that I don't even want to have sex. If I initiate sex I get my hand slapped away. Seriously..... slapped away. I guess I just am feeling lonely.

I was warned last night that

I was warned last night that I would get coughed on. My bf has a slight cough this week. Seriously? Since when did a slight cough stop anyone from having sex? It's an excuse plain and simple. I'm not stupid.

And your man sounds like he knows he's avoiding his responsibilities. Women's brains work different than mens.. for you to want to be with him, it means he needs to do his part around the house. That way you won't be so stressed out and tired from picking up his slack that yo might actually want to be physical with him!!

I think there are some good sites to look up good tools to help with this online.

Ha I have got that excuse

Ha I have got that excuse too. I think I'm getting a cold my throat hurts and my nose is plugged. Prob don't want you to get that. Then the roll over on his stomach to reassure I wouldn't be trying to touch him anywhere..... Funny thing when he is asleep he is a midnight grop'r. He grabs me alot. Touches me alot. Sometimes even initiates sex (in his sleep) then will begin snoring. I get more action while he is sleeping then when he is awake.