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My Mother's Day weekend

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There were definitely some good parts and not-so-good parts. Saturday morning there was a community fishing event that I originally planned to take the kids (my two daughters and my step son) to. When my MIL found out about the event she told me that my FIL and grandfather-in-law were taking my nephew to it and she asked DH if he and SS could go too and they could have some family male bonding. I hadn't said anything yet about me planning to take all the kids so I let the idea drop so they could have their "guy" time with no girls around. So Saturday rolls around and DH and SS left bright and early for the fishing thing. My DD5 was disappointed that she couldn't go but I told her I would take her another time. Well a few hours later my MIL started posting a ton of pictures on FB of everyone fishing including her and my four year old niece. Apparently the guys only thing went out the window and the only ones who weren't invited were me and my girls. I asked DH about it later and he said she wasn't going to go but she couldn't stand the thought of having no pictures (my MIL is the type that thinks if you don't take a million pictures then it might as well of never happened) and she was babysitting my niece that morning so she had to bring her too. I still felt a little excluded but okay, whatever.

Later on in the day I decided to take the kids swimming at my SIL's apartment pool. My SS was with my MIL so I called her to ask him if he wanted to go. He said he wanted to go and my MIL said she would go too for a little while and bring my nephew. When I got to my inlaws house to pick up SS my MIL said they had dinner plans in a couple of hours so she and my nephew wouldn't be going after all. Then she tells my nephew (who is 6 and a wild child) right in front of me "unless Aunt JLBFinch will take you too, then you can go." So of course my nephew started begging me to take him too, which I didn't want to do bc I had a feeling it would lead to me and DH babysitting him while my inlaws went out to eat. But it's hard to say no and leave one kid out (and MIL knows this, she set me up) so I told my nephew to change into his bathing suit and c'mon.

While we were at the pool my MIL texted me that the next day (Mother's Day) her and I should go have lunch and get our nails done. I thought she was probably trying to make-up for springing my nephew on me but it was still a nice invitation. Also while we were at the pool my younger sister called me and offered to come get my kids and have them spend the night with her. Yes! So I raced everyone out of the pool and drove home real fast to grab my kids a change of clothes and go meet my sister. Then things got even better, while I was gone doing that FIL came over and picked up my nephew and my SS. DH and I ended up having a child free night and it was glorious!

So Mother's Day rolled around and DH ran over to his parents house around 9:30 to pick up my SS and at the same time I went over to my sister's place to get my kids. While I was on my way back DH called me and asked how far away I was bc he got called into work. Due to the nature of his job when he gets called in he pretty much has to go. Bummer, no more peaceful lunch or nail salon. When I called my MIL to cancel she said oh that's okay bc I was going to call and let you know I can't make it either. Another sister of mine called and asked what we were doing and invited us to come to her house and I told her we'll leave as soon as SS gets picked up which was supposed to be at 11:30. 11:30 rolls around and no trace of BM. I texted her at 12 to see what was going on and she replied that she forgot she asked to get him early but she doesn't need to anymore and she'll be there at the regular time of 2 o'clock. I was sooooo irritated, my sister lives kind of far and it made it too much of a hassle to go if we wouldn't even be getting there till after 3.

Finally at 2 SS gets picked up and I just took my girls to the park then we went to get ice cream. DH got home just in time to still be able to bbq so that was good and we had a nice evening. Here's where the really crappy part comes in. On Friday when my older DD and my SS got home from school they each had a Mother's Day gift in their backpack. They go to the same school and are in the same grade so they made the same craft--a pot holder with their handprint and name. My SS gave me his first and I specifically asked him before I opened it (since it was nicely wrapped in tissue paper) is this for me or is this for your mom? He told me he wanted me to have it and had a big, proud smile on his face. I opened my DD's next and I gushed about them then put them both on display in the kitchen. Last night BM texted DH, "not trying to start drama but I find it hard to believe that *son's name * made nothing at school for Mother's Day. I was going through his backpack and there's nothing here, did JLBFinch keep something that was meant for me?" What the heck?! I can't help it that he wanted me to have it and I've been mad about the insinuation that I sneakily stole her Mother's Day gift ever since. What I really want to tell her is that he also made an All About My Mom page and left it here. He took it out of his backpack and threw it on our fireplace before he walked out the door with his mom, probably bc he was hurt that she was supposed to come early.