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Just got done with days of BM taking shelter in my house

Jlbfinch's picture

Hurricane Harvey has wreaked havoc in my area. We were so lucky to get no flooding in my neighborhood but BM has significant damage to her house. Her only family in this area lost everything. What's funny is that BM used to live in our subdivision in her mom's old house and I used to hope she would move out and then she did and now I wish she hadn't bc we will be keeping the kids indefinitely and DH will need to help her with her home since the kids live there too. Anyway, we already had the kids over here for Harvey and BM eventually had to leave her house Sunday. She was rescued by jet ski to give you an idea of how crazy it's been around here. She spent one night with her boss but the bosses house was disgustingly dirty. Since we're low/no conflict with BM it was just the right thing to do to invite her over.

It wasn't too bad having BM over, I have almost four month old twins so life is insane as it is. She is really stressed about her house and job so kept to herself or made necessary calls most of the time. Yesterday me and her went to an animal shelter with an overwhelming need and walked dogs for three hours and neither of us are pet people! Flooding does strange things lol. When she was able to go somewhere else yesterday she ran down to the grocery store first and bought beer and a gift card as a thank you gift to us. I'm just ready for life to get back to normal but unfortunately in my community it's going to be a while.

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ESMOD's picture

I'm glad to hear your family made it through safely. I am glad you were able to host BM. I'm not 100% sure what I would feel like if I had been in your situation with My BM. lol.

strugglingSM's picture

You're a better person than I am. I would take in my SSs, but BM would be on her own. She would scream and cry to DH about how could he not support "the mother of his children", but she's so terrible to him that he would have to move out if she came to stay at our house.

I hope all your family and friends are safe. The pictures from Harvey flooding look terrible.

thinkthrice's picture

You're a better person than I am. I would have held her under (with the help of Chef--the Girhippo is a BIG woman.

DaniellaR's picture

I love how you don't hold back on the raw emotion towards the Gir.

OP you are better than me. If BM had animals, I would take them in before I took her crazy butt in. She has been wanting to see the inside of my home and get closer to DH so bad (probably so she can win him back like she proclaimed she would years ago). I would never give BM what she wanted. I probably would have DH cracking up with accidentally calling her sir though (if hell froze over and she stayed with us).

Jlbfinch's picture

Even with having to host BM we got off easy. We're just waiting for the stores to get restocked and life to move on but so many lost everything and will be dealing with this for months if not years.

AshMar654's picture

I am glad you are safe and you have a big heart for what you did. My Brother lives down there and he was lucky too that his development did not get water. The fields near him did but his streets and house are totally safe. They too are just waiting for things to be restocked and get back to normal. We were all worried for him.

Seeing all the support and all the people that have come together down there have made be proud that I was born in Texas. Abilene area but still goes to show that Texans are unique and work so hard to help out strangers no matter what race, religion or differences they may have.

Again so happy you are safe.

SacrificialLamb's picture

Glad you are safe. I am from the Beaumont area (slightly east) and what my friends are posting on FB is so sad......even using flood water to flush toilets since Beaumont has no water.

Thank you for helping out the animals! And you are a nice person helping out BM in her time of need. A lot of people would not do that despite how bad things were.

I hope things get back to normal for you as soon as possible. I now live in Florida and have not been in a hurricane yet....I can't say that it is on my bucket list....

WTF...REALLY's picture

What a horrific time. Watching all the videos and images of what's going on is truly heartbreaking. I'm so glad you guys are OK and help other people out. It's incredibly kind of you to go walk the animals. Keep up the good work.

Jlbfinch's picture

It's really awful, the town to the south of us one freeway exit away is underwater. My parents house has 4ft of water, 2ft in my church, numerous families from my kids' elementary school are displaced. One of my former colleagues perished in the flood. No bread, milk, eggs, meat, gasoline, etc but it's slowly getting better.

WTF...REALLY's picture

Absolutely heartbreaking. So sorry you lost a former colleague. I can't imagine how long it's gonna take to recover from this record-breaking storm.

twoviewpoints's picture

A very kind thing opening up your home to BM.

I think when we actually see people truly in trouble and suffering we all manage to do things we normally won't think we could/would do.

You did good.

My heart is breaking watching the rescues on tv. All those elderly people basically helpless being carried to boats. There is a lot of heart going on in Texas. I'd like to think that everything gets set aside when things like this occur...there's always tomorrow to go back to the ins and outs of everyday , but this, this is no time for differences and disagreements. In this, we are all the same and we all need each other.

My little white poodle caught sight of a rescued little white poodle going down the flooded street in a boat on tv. He tilted his head and watched. I could almost hear him thinking, that could be him.

Acratopotes's picture

Glad you are okay in this mess and not without a home.... but you are a good woman...

no way in hell I would take BM in, or wait I might but she better not eat or drink anything I prepare and sleep with both eyes open hehehehehehe

WalkOnBy's picture

I think what you did was a very caring thing to do, but I do have one question.

Why does your husband have to help her out with her house? I totally understand you guys keeping the kids for a while, but isn't rebuilding her home her responsibility?

Doesn't she have insurance?

Jlbfinch's picture

No he would never be working on the house bc she was just renting it, he offered to help her move everything out but it's all a loss anyway bc she didn't have renters insurance. She's gotta find an apartment or other house quick bc lots of people are scrambling for a place to live right now. Starting after work today and all through the weekend my DH is going to be helping my dad with my parents house and also helping his uncle with his house. I'm doing crazy amounts of laundry for families but that's about as much I can do bc of my infant twins.

Edit: I went back and re-read and my first post does make it sound like she owns the house but no it's just a rental. I wasn't considering that she and the kids wouldn't be able to live there anymore.