I did it and let me tell you what... My life, relationship and home have never been better!!! MY man does what I want, BM has zero and I mean zero control, we still have issues with SS but for the most part I AM THE PARENT and he HAS to listen and respect me. I call the shots in my home and guess what??? DH loves it bc for once I am HAPPY, he is HAPPY, the home is peaceful, we don't fight near as much, BM knows that she has no power over him, my home, me, our time, our lives bc DH made it known, had stuck to his guns and I have made it known as well. This is my life and I'm done complaining and being miserable. So I did something about it, I stood up to DH and laid down the law. He knew I was serious and he has seen how horrible I have had it and been treated. He was very upset with himself once I forced him to see the light. Come on ladies, you can do this!!! And u know what if DH doesn't change then he didn't deserve you.and.u r better off without him!!!! Why live your life miserable with and for a man who refuses to do anything to make u happy and could careless about you, your feelings, your pain, your unhappiness, your wants n needs, YOU???

Im here bc no relationship is perfect. I still have bad days and good ones like anyone. This has just changed as of not quite a month ago. I'm saying this to everyone bc it can work, u can be happy with a BM and sbrats. I realise this doesn't work for everyone. I've been told if I dont like how things r with SKids and BM then I could leave, I've been put second to them all for years. I've had it rough as most of you have. I've been miserable, broken, lost, mistreated, taken for granted for far too long. I had enough. I stood up to DH and told him this is how its going to be or I'm leaving. I've done this many times and it didn't work. This time was different. He knew I had had enough and it was my way or the highway. And he did what it took to keep me and to make me happy.

Equal partnership? Lol... ok... bm having his balls sounds sooo fair to a sm. No he sincerely realised how much of a doormat he and bm and skids have made me for years, appologised and swore he would never put me second again. And he hasnt. My husband wears the pants but he has stopped catering to bm and started catering to me. Im glad u r ok with bm running your man but i think us sm's are looking for more or an equal partnership between our husbands and us without bm. Which is exactly what i e got. No need to hate bc i actually stood up to my husband and demanded for him to actually be MY husband, not bm's and he did. He has fully stepped up. We have our problems like anyone but no more bm catering or kissing ass. Its all about our family and that does not include bm, her wants, needs, demands, feelings. This is MY family and i took control of it when dh was allowing bm to demolish it. Dictatorship... lol. My husband let me control him?? Lol... no. Hes as stubborn as a mule and does what he wants, he just realised that when it came to bm that he was doing it at my expense, our families expense, our relationships expense and he was not going to treat me in such a way anylonger. It was funny tho. It was like he honestly had no clue how bad i was being treated and when he actually heard me out, he felt horrible about it. He said he couldnt believe i was still here, that he wouldnt have put up with it, how grateful he is for me and that he would never do that to me again. When i was all packed, ready to leave and walk out, he finally surprised me. I had never felt so lost, broken, used, unwanted, alone, ect in my life. He saw my deep pain, came to rescue me and has been fixing what he had broken. Its called LOVE. And for the first time in years i finally feel like i am truly and unconditionally loved. I was just passing on my own personal success bc i thought everyone here deserved to know how i got here. Everyones deserves to be treated like a princess and everyone wants to be. Ive been thru hell and back... I finally feel like i am HOME after years of being the outsider in my own house. You can keep your nonsense to yourself bc you nor anyone else is going to bring me down!! I know this cannot work for everyone but isnt it worth a shot??? Some ladies just cannot go this route bc their husbands will not cooperate and none of us want to give our husbands the ultimate ultimatum and hear those horrible words come out of the man we love's mouth "theres the door. Go." Ive heard them and it took years for me to do this again... Idk y but it eorked this time. I did not expect what he did at all. But now everythings falling into place and i couldnt be more thankful. My prayers were answered