FIL Throwing a Tantrum over DH's request to stop being a PITA
FIL was a violent jerk when DH was growing up. This is why DH is so against physical punishment. So, FIL has made it his personal pursuit to "cause" DH to cave in and use physical punishment on skids (5 and 2).
Every time FIL visits, he incites the kids to act horrible, gets them to break every rule we have, gets them to pick on each other and hit each other, call each other names, etc. It is nonstop garbage. He will literally talk them into doing something DH just told them not to do. Then, of course, he's totally pleased with himself when DH finally snaps at yells at the boys.
I finally got sick of it and told DH that I really did not want FIL around anymore if he couldn't respect our house rules.
He text two days ago asking if it would be alright if he came to see us. DH text back that it would be fine as long as he would respect our house rules, stopping talking about BM all the time, and stop inciting the kids to fight with each other.
No text back. Nothing. We haven't heard a word since. This is the same guy who said he wasn't going to attend our wedding because FIL's ex wife (Dh's MOTHER) was going to be there.
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Ah well, peace reigns and you
Ah well, peace reigns and you don't have to deal with the old fart. Enjoy it while it lasts. But what a moron for a FIL.
Yeah. I tried really hard to
Yeah. I tried really hard to build a relationship with him at first, but at this point I think it's probably better this way. Even if he doesn't agree with our rules, he should respect our household. Besides, he ought to know that DH would lose custody in a heartbeat if he WAS physically violent towards them, so I really have no idea what the hell he is thinking about.
Good grief your FIL doesn't
Good grief your FIL doesn't sound like an adult at all. Kudos to your DH for standing up to him and setting the boundary. It doesn't sound like you'd be missing much if he weren't around.
Yeah, I have tried really
Yeah, I have tried really hard, actually, to have a good relationship with him. But this whole thing where he is trying to trap DH into physically punishing the kids is just insane.
He also leaks information to BM on a pretty regular basis and IS NOT SUPPORTIVE of DH and I having a baby. When we mentioned it a couple years ago he said to DH: "Oh, you don't have enough kids already?"