Maiden Name update & How do you deal with all the anger?
I just wanted to thank everyone for their advice and support in the whole maiden name issue. You all helped me realize I was dragging alot of other issues into the situation that weren't truly related. DH and I are now doing much better, and have both made important agreements about the way we look at this relationship.
I've realized how truly, deeply angry I am about this situation. It is not a rational way to feel because there's nothing to be achieved by the anger and literally nothing DH or I can change at the moment without violating a court order or giving up on our marriage (not an option).
How do you deal with the anger? I use to be a relatively happy person, and while my DH makes me extremely happy almost every single day, there is another dimension of this living situation that seems to be turning me into someone I often do not recognize. I am so furious with BM. I am furious with DH's family. I am furious with our judge. I am furious with DH for every having anything to do with BM in the first place.
Has anyone had any luck with coping strategies? Seriously. Meditation? Counseling? Writing letters I'll never send? Writing letters that I will actually send? Standing on my head for ten minutes every morning? Pills?
I feel invaded, ridiculed, and taken advantage of basically every single day . . . and the court order is enforcing the situation. Additionally, our judge told DH we couldn't go back to court for a full year (I suppose he doesn't want to hear about it) unless something extreme happens (new job, moving to a different city, etc).
Have any of you actually gotten past the anger for good?