I enjoyed my wknd with my sons so much, i felt peaceful, relaxed, the boys enjoyed their friends and home w/no fighting, competition, etc.

All was well until the bf came to visit me last night (after dropping sd off)....for about 2hrs off and on I heard 'sd' over and over, about the game, about her mom that showed up with now ANOTHER dude looking lesbian. How SD was embarrased and upset, how they celebrated the end game, what he cooked for her, on and on..how he took her to this party celebration w/the team he knew nothing about until the game (that of course mom couldn't take her to after planning it)...all the of course that the kid is messed up, yes and doesn't know how to handle a heterosexual stabel relationship.

And its' true that her mom being a lesbian isn't the issue (well partially maybe)-its the fact she has a revolving door of these nasty looking creeps in/out of sd's home/life honestly revolting.

BUT I told him that I loved my time alone, that for NOW it was the solution...he said well eventually if we get married or later on we can't always have it this way-I said, eventually but for NOW this is the solution. And I honestly think you need to get serious about counseling immediately...through the moms insurance, school..she has some severe issues that need professional help, we can't do it. I can't expose myself to it anymore, I have to watch out for myself and my own.

I was just annoyed, because he has to know how aggravated I am with her and he keeps bringing her up-I don't want to hear about her anymore!!! I know he's scrambling to find a solution desperately and wants my help, but i've tried. Only thing I can do is remove myself and insist he gets her in counseling and learns to parent her.

My sons told me that she told them she hates living w/her mom...doesn't want to be there at all. Well, I think if that's the case she must want dad to herself becuase she begs to come over our place to then crap on us so she must be trying to alienate us also in a manipulative way. So she can have him if it boils down to that. I won't have her living in my home.

I've had to re-think the entire relationship because of this. BF heard her talkign on the phone w/her mom and was in shock!!!

He said he never knew "SD" "ran it" like that w/her mom-she was rude, yelling at her mom, being disrespectful, arguing. He thought for sure her and mom were tight bff's but that mom ran the ship big time w/her and that's why she didn't listen to him. That she only bended to moms authority. NOT SO..so this kid listens to NOBODY, not her mom, him, me,....the mom is always finding places for her to go/stay on the wknds because she doesn't want to deal w/her either. Shit if her MOM can't handle her why could/should I????