Pick a winner!
My skids have ony been pulled up on their manners by me at my home. And I've constantly said to DH 'sort out their manners and ettiquette before their filthy habits rub off on our 18 month old daughter'. As a school teacher, once upon a time I thought it may be useful to create some 'house expectations' together - I figured, usually kids adhere to rules if they have some input in creating them. One of the expections is:
SS10 - DO NOT PICK YOUR NOSE EVER, EVER, EVER!
PFFT! That's effective NOT! Call me a drama queen, but these kids are seriously feral - I can say that it wasn't their faults when they were little, but now that they know better they can accept some responsibility for their rudeness.
We had the skids this weekend just gone during which time I asked SS10 to get his finger out of his nose about 3 times. So tonight I sat BD19mths in her chair to wait for her dinner to cool a bit, and stood in front of the TV to catch tomorrow's weather on the News. I thought, 'Gee, she's quiet' and turned to find my angel faced daughter with her index finger planted firmly up her nose. I was horrified. DH thought it was hilarious - I could have kicked him! "IT" has begun. My daughter, who at 19 months, always says please (peez) and thank you (tah) is now picking a winner too.
Another rule I'd like to inform SS10 of: 'KEEP YOUR HANDS AWAY FROM YOUR FACE OR YOU WILL NO LONGER BE WELCOME IN MY HOME'... Uh, it not enforcable though - he'll still visit his Dad if he's unwelcome by me...
So what to do to nip this in the bud? How do I protect my daughter from BM's bad parenting? BD will look up to her half-siblings, it's only natural and she doesn't know better at this point but any advice on how to stop the 'unlearning' they bring with them? I'm really serious about their feralness and this, to me, is worth leaving over - it's like the straw that broke the camels back.