Advice so required .. PLEASE HELP!!
I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and he has a little girl from his previous relationship.
At first me and her Mum used to get on OK, we'd have her and her boyfriend round for dinner etc.
She started school and her Mother wouldn't change her working hours, so on Tuesday's and Thursday's when she was staying with her Daddy I changed my hours at work so that I could pick her up from school and we'd cook her Daddy his dinner and get showered and ready for bed for when he got home. Things changed STD Mum said was confusing her having 2 homes and stopped my boyfriend from having his daughter in the week and wrote to the school to ban me from picking her up.
Things have got worse since then! She has been told that my family are not her family and she mustn't call my sisters Aunties, Uncles, Cousins etc.
Recently step daughter has been telling her school class teacher that she feels sad that me & her Daddy have bought her a playhouse and a trampoline for her to play with at our home and that in future she wants all her toys, clothes, books & christmas & birthday present oh and sweets (this we are not sure where this comes from because sweets are bad for children's teeth so we don't let her have any at our home) to be at her Mum's and that she will pack a bag of toys, books and clothes that she will want to play with at the weekend at ours.
My step daughter goes without anything, she has a lovely bedroom filled with what only I can descride as being heaven for a child, books, fancy dress outfits, paints, colouring books, skipping ropes, hop scotch, bike, scooter, dollies, trampoline, DVD's, clothes, shoes, toys etc. She has told me and her Daddy that she loves it that she has all these things at our home but she tells her Mummy that she doesn't like it and that she is confused that she has the same things at her Mummy's & Daddy's homes. Surely having the same dolly at 2 homes can't be that confusing?
My step daugher is 98% as good as gold for me & her Daddy but for her Mummy she is 45% good for her & her Mum phones my boyfriend when she is naughty to get him to speak to her. Mum is saying her bad behaviour is down to us & that she is confused because we have porvided a safe, loving fun home for her (in my eyes).
Obviously christmas is around the corner & for 3 years my boyfrined & I have bought her presents to be at our home, now her Mummy is saying all presents to be at her Mummy's house & she can bring them round to ours if she wants to play with them!
Anyone else had this situation? Please help! It's starting to course arguments between me & her Daddy now because I think if we have bought presents we want to enjoy watching her play with them. He on the other hand is getting grief from his ex.