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RE: Lying Child Post

fedupstepdad's picture

Saw it on someones post yesterday and responded. Its funny how things happen, but as fate would have it my wife went out to dinner last night with some friends while I watched the kids. My children wanted to watch TV in my room while laying down in bed so I put on a show they liked and let them. My SD went into the room with them and laid with them on the bed as well. I went downstairs to the living room and watched tv myself. Kids went to bed a little while later and wife came home and asked me why I didn't let SD watch TV? I asked her what she was talking about and showed me a text message she received from SD that I told her to watch her brother and sister and that she wasn't allowed to watch TV. I told my wife that was a bold faced lie and i never said that. I didn't say A WORD! Short of it, my wife said she sent her back a text saying if she asked nicely i'd probably let her watch TV to which her response was never mind. This kid is doing what she always does, divide and conquer and I must say I really have had it. I voiced my concerns to my wife because recently she betrayed my wife in court with vicious lies and said she had to because she would get in trouble by her dad if she didn't. I told my wife If she can do that to you I'm afraid of what she could do to me of our BKs. Any advice? Because i'm at the point where I want nothing to do with this child!

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Totalybogus's picture

If I were you I would never let myself be alone with her. God only knows what deviant behavior she will attibute to you if she gets annoyed with you.

How did your wife respond when you told her that the skid lied about that? Did she believe you or the skid?

fedupstepdad's picture

She did believe me and of course that famous "i'll have a talk with her" line came up...but this kid is beyond words. Unfortunately my wife has overcompensated all her life and has never punished her. The child knows nothing of recourse or reprecussion of her actions. And knows that if she argues/cries enough my wife caves. My wife knows that I wouldn't lie to her...and she knows that her kid would...so sad!

fedupstepdad's picture

She was never in it? I never told her to watch the kids at all...I was putting them in the bed and put the show on when she walked in the room, got into bed with them and watched tv...that was it...no Hey you have to watch them or anything. She could have gone and watched one of the other 6 TVs we have in the house but she wanted to be with the kids so it seemed...she probably did it because she likes the tv in the living room best and knew I was watching it, but doesn't that speak in volumes of what this kid might be able to conjure up?

Amazed's picture

She is showing herself to be capable of lying about anything at this point. Watch your back and don't be alone with her EVER as Tbogus already said. You seem like a decent person and I'd hate to see her lie about something REALLY serious if you catch my meaning.

~“For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone"~ Audrey Hepburn

fedupstepdad's picture

Trust me I catch it...but I feel like most would in this situation...I don't want her around, I have disengaged and I am indifferent to her when shes around. Cordial, respectful but thats about it. As far as being alone with her, that will never happen. I can just imagine what BS she could come up with then. I just worry about my relationship with my wife. I know it cant' be easy for her, but I'm sorry I will not take shit from anyone...and that includes an 11 year old brat!

Amazed's picture

It's tough to give good,sound advice in regard to a situation like yours. Two adults, one of which is pulled between husband and daughter...the other is pulled between wife and impossible child.

*sigh* I guess just continue doing what you're doing and keep being patient and understanding with your wife. Maybe show her some of our posts to help her see that how she handles her kid isn't the healthiest thing for her marriage?

We all have certain things we must accept to keep our partners in life...this manipulative brat is your test and we're never given more than we can truly handle. The only way to get by is to think of it as a test. You have the intelligence,strength and courage to deal with a less than ideal stepchild and this proves it. Smile wish I could offer something better but I really can't.

~“For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone"~ Audrey Hepburn

fedupstepdad's picture

How 'bout a good smack to the back of the head!? lmao just kidding... Smile hee hee

Amazed's picture

well that works too...almost as well as a swift kick to the ass

~“For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone"~ Audrey Hepburn

GiGi222's picture

Have you tried confronting her together? Maybe when this incident occured your wife should have called her down and you both could be there to confront her.
Then see how she tries how to wiggle out of that one.

fedupstepdad's picture

Giana, yes we have on other occasions...she was asleep when this latest incident occured but she lies right to both of our faces. As an example, a couple of days ago I told her not to touch the master volume on the TV and that it was set at 25 for a reason, just use the remote for the cable box volume to make it lower or higher. She said ok. The very next day I turned the tv on and it almost blasted me out of the room. I checked the master volume, it was on 75, turned to her and said "Didn't I tell you not to touch the master volume and that it was to be on 25?" Without hesitation she said "No!". Thanks God her mother was right there and said Yes he did...you are lying...to which she went into her whole you never believe me shtick and tried to run away crying...but of course there was no consequence except the, please do what you are told to do, to which she responded I do!

mommommom's picture

Awful situation. I feel for you! I would take all advice above and not be left alone with her at all, not even when other kids are there. If SD is there then her mother needs to be also in my opinion. A child can ruin a person's life if they decide to be deceptive and make up a lie that could truly hurt you. This girl sounds like she is on that path. I know she is your SD, so I am not trying to pass judgment. But I have seen situations like this come up with innocent people just because skids didn't like their stepparent. It is horrible!

Storm76's picture

Thinking along the lines of 'The boy who cried wolf', and thinking that with her age she's old enough to think consequences through, could you & your wife agree that for 24 hours or so you will tell her you don't believe anything she tells you? I'm thinking this would be really annoying for her if every statement is met with 'I don't believe you' and she may realise that trust has to be earned.

buttercup123's picture

I would not be alone with her, not bother talking to her and not include her in anything until your wife sets some boundaries and ground rules. Just tell your wife that if she won't discipline her or let you then sd is her problem. She can deal! Don't leave her alone with your kids either.

buttercup123's picture

That is the kind of kid that I read about on other blogs that start pulling super crazy stuff like accusing another child in the house of molestation. Not cool.