I came across some pictures of my SD with DH and BM when they were still together. I threw them away. My SD was 2 when they split up (they were never married). She is 6 now and doesn't remember a time when I wasn't married to her dad. So she won't miss the pictures of the three of them together.

Your situation is different. I'd want to get rid of it as soon as possible because I wouldn't want it in my house. I like your idea of throwing away the pics of BM and saving the rest. I don't think your SKs would expect you to have pics of their BM anyway.

If I was disengaged completely because skids are sh*ts, I'd probably take the pics of the skids and put them in an album and trash the ones with Bm. If no one has asked for the pics I'm sure they've been long forgotten and it's not your responsibility to be anyones storage.

Save the kid pics and trash the BM ones since she most likely has wedding photos the kids can see. Brush off your hands and done!

It would seem to me that if these pics have been laying around literally for years and nobody has asked about them, mentioned them, looked at them, that they don't hold a lot of meaning to anyone.

But on the other hand, I understand what Echo is saying about throwing away pics of someone else's kids is not really nice. Pics of BM? Oh hell, I'd be having some kind of hoodoo voodoo party... use the damn things as a dart board, toilet paper, whatever and burn the mofos.

You must have a storage area... attic, basement. I'd just move them there, someplace where you don't have to come across them, or be bothered by them, but they are still "around".

Any pictures with BM in them I would throw out. If they are that important, I'm sure BM has a copy of the pictures. If not, too bad. I wouldn't have BM's picture anywhere in my house.

"By the way if I ask DH what he wants me to do he will probably say throw it away or he will give it to one of the girl skids and like I said before it will just sit at our house or in his van....."
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So ask your DH & let him make the call. If he says throw it away, have at it...though I can't imagine a parent would be so quick to toss photos of his children. HIS photos...HIS call.

The kids can take them home or he can let them sit in his van.

I agree with Echo. How would you feel if the person you are supposed to be able to trust above all others took it upon themselves to rid your home of photos of your family?

It's simple respect.

i have pics from before my own parents' divorce, and copies of some wedding pictures. my grandmother kept them for me in a safe place until i was adult enough to appreciate them, and they are currently in an album that i treasure. that's MY history.

if i were you, i'd either have DH address it to mail to her as mentioned above, OR (and big 'or' cuz i dont know ya'lls relationship) see if MIL will give it safe keeping?

either way, just get it out of YOUR house!