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Update on BM collecting CS for MSD and what DH was going to do about it

zerostepdrama's picture

Update to this that I posted last week:

#1- Of course BM filed for modification when MSD "aged out" in May 2014. DH just got the proposed new amount and of course it went up AGAIN. Even though CS was just modified last year (per the every 3 year rule). DH's income hasn't changed! How did it go up?

Then to add to that frustration MSD "aging out" really happened in November 2013- when she turned 18. But because she was living with BM and in school, her legal emancipation date wouldnt be until she graudated in May 2014.

BUUUUTTTT She wasn't living with BM or going to school! So basically BM and MSD (yes she knew what she was doing) LIED to DH about MSD going to school. So since she wasn't even in school, MSD should have "aged out" a lot sooner then May 2014.

Of course we find this out #1 by chance (from SS) and AFTER MSD ages out, so CS tells us we cant do anything about it now unless we get a lawyer and take it to court.

We arent going to spend the money for lawyer because the amount we would possibly get back wouldnt cover a lawyer but its just the damn prinicipal. How is BM collecting money for a kid that doesnt even meet the requirements for CS?

How is this bitch always getting a raise in CS? Pisses me off.

I guess DH can (and he is) object to the new amount and it will then go in front of the judge and he can bring the issue up then. We dont know if the judge will even hear it. But its our only hope, even if the likely hood is like 1%.

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DH told me today that he isnt going to object to the new CS modification. By not objecting he wont have the chance to bring up the issue with BM collecting CS for MSD when she shouldnt be.

I am actually okay with this.

#1 I think DH is too lazy to fill out the paperwork. I kept telling him he needs to object by a certain date. Well that date is like 3 days away.

#2 We arent going to hire a lawyer to address this issue. So DH would have to request a court date for the CS modification and then bring it up. And hopefully the judge would want to hear it. Knowing DH he would just screw it up anyways. He wouldnt know what to say and would just get annoyed.

#3 and the thought of the judge not doing anything about it and then BM thinking she got one over on DH or giving her the "okay" to do other decietful things is way too much to think about.

I'm ready to just be done with it. The LESS we have to think about BM the better. The LESS we have to deal with her the better.

I know karma will catch up with her.

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zerostepdrama's picture

Youngest agest out in May 2017.

Our state really only pursues parents that owe back CS if the other parent is paying NOTHING, so even $5 a month is something. Or if the other parent is collecting benefits (WIC, Welfare, etc) then they will pursue CS.

zerostepdrama's picture

The current modification- the new amount for YSD- DH can object that and it will go to court. While there he can try to bring up the fact that he overpaid for MSD. That is how I understand it, coming from the CS case worker. Since MSD is now aged out and not on the books for CS, they wont do anything about it.

I'm half tempted to make DH take that bitch to Judge Judy or something like that. LOL

zerostepdrama's picture

It's that exact same reason why DH had to pay for MSD.

She turned 18 in November, but school ends in May. So okay, makes sense. She's still in school. Even though it annoyed me to know end that she is a MOTHER herself and not even living with BM and BM wasnt even giving her ANY of the CS to at least help her and the few months she did live with BM, BM charged her rent and collected CS too. Still, she is in school and that is the law. The law is the law.

But then to find out she wasn't even in school..........uuuuuuuuuugggggggggghhhhhhhh... makes me hate that bitch even more then I already do!

zerostepdrama's picture

I told DH to call the school and verify that MSD was still going. I had a feeling she wasn't. Not sure how since I dont even see it. My spidey sense I guess. DH said he did and she was. Later I got proof she wasnt. I asked DH about it and he said he didnt check, he just lied to me to get me off of his back. Had he done it at the time, it would have been caught before she "aged" out.

MSD did lie to our faces twice though and act like she was in school.

It is DH's precious princess. Why wouldnt he think she was still in school? Why would he believe anything other then she is perfect and awesome and always doing the right thing. }:)

hereiam's picture

My SD was 2 years behind, also. But she got pregnant and married a couple months after her junior year started. She tried to keep it a secret but just couldn't keep her mouth shut. She dropped out of school, too, but being married was so much easier to prove.