Mother's Day is coming up

And I dont fuckin care if I hear from the skids! I am not their mother! I wont be hearing from them though because I am disengaged. But I am NOT THEIR MOTHER!

Even when things were good I still got nothing from them.

I do like to send my friends who are mothers a quick text or message if I think about it. Otherwise no biggie. So I guess I wouldnt expect much more from the skids.

But the bottom line is I am not the skids MOTHER so there will be ZERO hurt feelings.

I have my own bio.

DH may or may not help my BS pick me up something. If he doesnt- Oh wells.

I dont need a fuckin day to celebrate what I do every.single.day. Be a mother.

If the day turns out nice and DH and BS do something then AWESOME. If not I am not going to whine about it.

I think that Mother's Day really matters when your kids are older and they can really treat you.

I'm sure we will hear all about the DH's who didnt meet the expectations of their wives on what to do for them on Mother's Day. Men are clueless. Are we really surprised when they cant manage to read our minds and give us the mind blowing Mother's Day experience that we are expecting and DESERVE?????

This is my mom's first Mother's Day without her mom That makes me really sad.

My BS will be extra nice and helpful to me on Mother's Day but I will still be doing the dishes, laundry, cleaning the cat boxes, etc.

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Yes and No. Do celebrate but

Yes and No. Do celebrate but not too much. After all you are just the mom. Not like a mom that should be celebrated, especially because your kids are skids too. So dont get too crazy with the whole Hey I'm a mom and it's Mother's Day.

Honestly I would LOVE to be able to celebrate with my mom. She lives too far away though and usually has to work. That would be an amazing Mother's Day for me.

I spend every day with my BS. We have a great relationship and he does nice things for me all the time. (As nice as a 9 year old can do).

I should really amp up

I should really amp up celebrating. After all I do do it all for my BS. Ex does about 2%. As a mother I truly deserve to scream from the top of my lungs "BUT I AM HIS MOTHER!"

Ex usually sends me a quick text "Happy Mother's Day". It's always appreciated

Go and upgrade YOUR phone,

Go and upgrade YOUR phone, yourself.

Can't ever count on them to do what we want, not even on a day that is supposed to celebrate us.

Do you have bios with your DH?

My sister always plants

My sister always plants flowers on Mothers Day too. Her DH buys her all the flowers she wants and then they spend the day planting and grilling.

I'd prefer to have my DH take me to Panera (I love it!) as opposed to grilling because #1- I will have to get all the food prepped and then I have to clean up afterwards and he tends to over cook the food. Not bad but not great. LOL

At least your SD acknowledges.

My two big skids acknowlege

My two big skids acknowlege me on mothers day by phone while with their mom. She is a good mom, we acknowledge her on that day and her birthday by taking the skids shopping for her. We dont hear anything from BM2 except complaints and we think she is a terrible mom. We do not acknowledge her at all ever. If we tried it would bite my DH in the butt, so he does not bother with any of that. I talk to my mom and send her a gift and my DD makes me something at school. DH buys me a gift to acknowledge everything I do for all the kids.

My own dear mom passed away

My own dear mom passed away in 2007, and that is the last year I ever thought about Mother's Day. I'm delighted that I'm not the mother of DH's kids. They're not really awful kids, but I love that I'm not responsible for the kind of people they are or the kind of people they become.

You should get a trophy the

You should get a trophy the size of your living room! Takes up the whole dang living room. Big! Filled with roses and wine!

It depends on what kind of

It depends on what kind of mother you are if you get a trophy or two trophies.

If you have a job, you get a trophy. But not if you have a job that someone else doesn't think is worthy enough or good enough or you dont make enough money.

If you take care of your kids, you get a trophy. But not if you take care of them too much. Or too little. You have to take care of the kids...juuuussst right. Of course it's open to interpertation since everyone has their own opinion.

Also depends on how you cook and clean and what kind of activites you do for your kids. Or don't do.

Do you know how I feel about

Do you know how I feel about my hammock? I love it!

Some do... I guess if you are

Some do... I guess if you are doing all the mothering (BSgoinon comes to mind) then they should at the very leasst be recogonized.

Ahh..Mother's Day.I remember

Ahh..Mother's Day.I remember when my boys were little and I would get breakfast in bed and my kitchen cleaned. Now that they're older.. we get together with my Mom and famz and have lunch at the club.. then the younger kids leave and.. we oldies.. drink cocktails and champagne and get completely and utterly intoxicated.. and then we bitch..bitch..bitch our brains out about anything and everything to do with motherhood.. love it!! Which is why I have to take the Monday off.. to recover..hehehe.. }:)

I'm hoping for no dramas on this day as we have SS13 with us. SO won't allow SS to spend the day with his Mom as BM doesn't allow SS to spend Father's Day with his dad, if it falls on her weekend. I friggin' hate the drama 'cos it's so damned unecessary!! Anyway, the whole day will be wasted for SO 'cos he'll spend most of it driving SS to his activities then has to return SS to BM n the afternoon.

.. I won't be worrying about any of thi by around ..2pm..as I should be merrily on my way to feeling damned wonderful thanks to the cocktails & champers!