It's been almost a year since youngest skid aged out
It's been almost a year since YSD graduated HS and aged out. Wooo hooo!
In the past year (give or take a couple of months):
DH has made upgrades to his motorcycle- paid cash
DH bought a truck- paid cash (he was saving though prior to end of CS)
We bought a new to us camper- paid cash
In this past year I have also blocked YSD and OSD (MSD already was blocked) from my social media and I have had little to no contact with them. I have not seen MSD in over 2 years, going on 3 years. I have briefly seen YSD 2 times for less then 10 minutes total. I have not seen OSD since the last time I saw MSD.
YSD also in this year had a baby (she was 8 months pregnant when she graduated), got married and moved to another COUNTRY with her DH who is in the Air Force.
SS is still around but we don't see him very often.
Mine and DH's relationship has improved in some ways. We still struggle with other stuff. But me cutting off any form of contact with the girl skids has been a blessing and put things in perspective for me. I just stay in my own lane and don't worry about what little contact they have with DH. The 2 times that I have seen YSD I said Hi and then kept it moving. I think it has shocked her more then I am at that "could care less" stage.
DH still has his moments. He sees the close relationship I have with my family and the things we do and I think he wishes he had that but he wishes it as in it would all just work out and everything would be sunshine and rainbows as opposed to the reality which is HE and his KIDS and even myself would have to put a lot of work into and DH isn't willing to do that.
With the new camper he has mentioned a couple of times about camping with the kids/grand kids. It annoys me but I'll allow him to fantasize about it. It's not like he would actually plan and follow through with anything. And I think he thinks he wants to do it but the reality of spending more then 1 hour with his kids/ grand kids isn't going to happen.
Here's hoping to improvement with each year!