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zerostepdrama's picture

Submitted by zerostepdrama on Tue, 04/15/2014 - 1:38pm

As long as we have the skids that we have. As long as the skids are who they are...then we will always have to deal with them and their b.s. It just never goes away.

Even though it isn't our fault or our b.s. to deal with, its US that have to learn to cope and deal and adjust if we want to stay married.

And does the elephant in the room (skid issues) ever go away? It's like a freakin sore festering away and then BOOM it explodes, everyone gets in a frenzy, then everyone calms down for a bit, but nothing really gets fixed, then the sore festers until the next BOOM. It's a damn cycle.

Can I even have a happy marriage with all the skid b.s? Does the anger and resentment ever go away?

I dont even have it half as bad as some other posters. I just can't deal with it. It's not in me. I'm not cut out for that.

Why does everyone else get their cake and get to eat it to? And all I want is a happy marriage where there are no "outsiders" trying to mess that up? I'm not asking for a lot.

Ugh just feeling overall frustrated with step life and marriage Sad

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LaMareOssa's picture

Submitted by LaMareOssa on Tue, 04/15/2014 - 1:54pm

I feel the same anger and resentment and I know mine will never go away. No matter how hard I try to find my center, my happy place, etc.. Mine is here forever, unless I divorce DH and never see SD12 again. DH has full sole custody of SD12, so my irritation has seemed to doubled.

Happy thoughts happy thoughts

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Submitted by Willow2010 on Tue, 04/15/2014 - 2:00pm

I think it will always be there. It does fade though if they are out of sight.

Does not seem to be your case. Is DH still in an empty apartment with his kid today?

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Tue, 04/15/2014 - 2:17pm

As far as I know....I havent really talked to him today. Just a quick text from him and then I ask him a question about the situation and he hasn't responded back. I'm in the office today. I am so hoping and praying that he didnt bring her to the house or didnt bring her while I have been at work.