Still waiting to find out about whether BM got remarried or not, but saw my OSD post about how bored she is yet again. OSD moved in on her 18th b-day last fall. She agreed to our rules, which I believe are quite fair.

1. Get good grades so you can graduate on time. We will consider school your job as long as grades are decent.
2. Do your chores and help around the house.
3. On school nights you are free to go out after homework and chores are done. Curfew is 10 so you can get a shower and be in bed by 11.
4. On non-school nights curfew is midnight unless we know in advance or you are staying the night somewhere.
Just let us know so we don't worry.
5.If you go to your moms don't involve us in any fights. Your little sister still lives there so we need to keep the peace so we don't have trouble with her visitation schedule.
6. If you drop out of school you have six months to get a job and move out.
7. If you do not graduate this year you will get a full time job over the summer and pay rent while you finish high school next year.
8. All computers and phones in this house are public to all, keep any internet surfing and texting decent in case little hands start messing with them. At the very least wipe your browsing history and any indecent text messages.(She is 18)
9. No boyfriends allowed to spend the night, no sex in the house. Little brothers barge in and don't want them seeing things they shouldn't.
10. There are little children in this house, watch your language and you are responsible to let your friends know to watch theirs while here as well.
11. No underage drinking or drugs of any type allowed in the house at any time or for any reason, again your job to notify your friends of this.
12. Don't like the rules? Move out, don't complain.

In the last four months she has went out with friends once and to her boyfriends house five times. All she texts and tells people is how bored she is, and how we won't let her go places. We have been after her for over a year to get her license. I finally forced her two months ago to get her learners permit, but she won't drive. If we try and force her she purposely screws up and comes as close as she can to hitting stuff. So it's not worth my insurance premium going up until she wants to actually do it. My poor DH works 7 days a week(mandatory overtime) so when he comes home he doesn't want to go out unless it is something that is necessary. Picking up YSD, school events and counseling for the kids are about it. I do all the major driving for the kids. School, scouts, counseling, shopping, doctors, sports. Evenings are for homework, dinner, family time and bed, and all the extras the kids have any given night. She gets mad we won't take her every where. To me she is 18, she should have a license, or at the least enough friends to haul her around to do stuff. I don't mind it once in a while, but when she wants to go out at 8 on a school night when she has to be home two hours later, I'm not taking her. I have three little boys that need to get ready for bed and a hubby that I do like to spend time with. It wouldn't even be so bad if she only wanted us to do half the driving, pick up or drop off, but not both. How can you constantly bitch about being bored when you have this much leniency with your life. It is seriously not our fault, you are 18 figure it out yourself. Tired of hearing we won't let her do things. We will let you, we just don't want to haul your lazy ass around. Take us up on teaching you to drive and get your license. It's not rocket science, hell there isn't even a clutch to contend with.