Is this fair or not?
This is kind of an extention on invisiblestepmom's earlier post. But I am wanting to get some of your opinions on this.
My ex and I have discussed purchasing nintendo dsi's for my bd's for Christmas. We agreed to split the cost. I am feeling guilty because my sd's would not be getting one. Is this wrong? SD's are with us EOW, while I have my bd's full time. My bd's would not be getting this gift when sd's are with us, it would be given to them at a different time.
I feel it is too expensive to purchase them for sd's beings that they are at our home so little time compaired to my bd's. Also I know that sd's have these game systems at BM's house. I like to try to make things as fair as possible and don't want sd's to feel left out, but I also want to be able to get my bd's things like this.
Any thoughts or suggestions would be greatly appreciated!!!
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It's not wrong at all. Of
It's not wrong at all. Of course you should get your BD's this game system. Like you said, your SD has the same one at her mom's house! Your BD's done have one at all, and no one else's house to have one at!
I got my son a xbox 360 for his birthday and don't give two shits if SD has one at her house or not. Of course she got a WII for her birthday that stays at our house! LOL!
If it's a gift purchased
If it's a gift purchased between you and your ex for your girls then it is absolutely fine. Your Sd can always bring the one from her moms house for her EOW visits...that's what my SD does.
It's hard but in our house we try to make sure the kids have comparable "electronics" at SOMEONE'S house whether it's purchased by us and stays at our house or whether it's purchased by the other parents and only visits our house EOW. SD has an i-touch but choochoo doesn't have one...SD's mommy got this for her and you bet your buttons Choochoo will be getting one for christmas from mommy this year just so he stops stealing my ipod to use while sd is over our house jamming away on her itouch.
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That is exactly why we
That is exactly why we decided to purchase them the dsi's, because they are always wanting to get onto my itouch. I looked around and found out the dsi's do just as much if not more than the itouches and they are more durable and less expensive.
We purchased a cell phone for my oldest daughter for her upcoming birthday (12), we just added it to our plan. Her dad lives in Texas and it was too expensive (roaming) on his plan so we decided to purchase for her instead so she has instant access to talking with her dad, I am tired of her always using my cell. We have spoken with my bd's and plan in the future to put them on our plan as well. SD's don't know and the oldest one is a year older than my oldest. We have agreed that if BM wants to purchase sd's a cell phone she can put them on her plan, cause by the time we put my girls on we wont have any extra lines.
I have three bkids, two
I have three bkids, two skids and 1 gbaby, and the DH and I do this for every holiday... we spend the exact same amount of money on each child (or family of child). We have them make a list of what their wishes are and we try to get those items based on what we have alloted for each child. Last year we added a "family gift", which was a Wii and Wii fit for the entire family to use. I think this year we'll do a "family gift" again, not sure what though. I guess my situation may differ a little because both my ss's live with us full time. My BD became a mom herself this year so she gets to split her usual gift allowance with gbaby & SO, and my BS is having his baby next week and we'll do the same with him and his new family.
We stay more focused on the family get together than the actual gifts anymore. We just have too many kids like the little old lady that lived in a shoe.
--I am so unbelievably sick of your imperious bullsh!t. I never said I was June-f*cking-Clever...