Officially labeling him "Disney Dad"
I always knew my SO spoiled his kid rotten. The kid (3) gets whatever he wants, when he wants. SO gives him cookies and chips whenever the kid says he's hungry, which is all the time. They get home in the evening and the kid says "I'm hungry" so he get's treats to "hold him over" til dinner. You would think the kid's daycare doesn't feed him.
Anyway
Last night I made a really delicious stir fry dinner with lots of vegetables. I'm big on veggies at my house and my son LOVES them. SS3 refused to take ONE bite and threw a fit. His dad made him stand in the corner for awhile.
I had to run to the store after dinner and when i came home, SS3 was sitting on the couch with a CORN DOG and french fries!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I don't usually say anything to SO about how he parents his kid but my mouth dropped and I said "You seriously gave him a corn dog?" He said "What was I supposed to do? Let him starve?" I said "Yes, you are teaching him that when he doesn't like what is given to him he can just not eat and get something he likes later. I don't want my son to learn those bad habits too." That really pissed him off.
I was super mad about it the rest of the night so finally the passive aggressive side of me said "Sorry about earlier. I didn't mean to tell you how to parent your kid, but what you do affects my son too and if you want your kid to be fat and unhealthy then that's your problem but I cook vegetables in this house and we eat them." He ignored me.
Right before bed time, SS3 was on the couch eating ice cream while my son and I shared apple nachos.
SO seriously caters to that kid and the kid gets everything he wants. When he is naughty he stands in time out for a minute until his dad "feels bed" then showers him with hugs and kisses.
On Sunday, SS3 busted an ornament in my son's room and put the shattered part on my son's bed so my son cut his hand open. I asked SS3 if he did it and he said yes. His dad just said "Come sit by daddy" and cuddled him on the couch and was giving him hugs and kisses while I bandaged my sons hand.
Nice.
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Please tell me that you know
Please tell me that you know this is all going to get worse?
Pretty soon, he is going to tell you that you are "picking" on his kid and then he will really step up the spoiling of the child. He will see it as protecting him from big bad xtina. And he is going to start pointing out "bad" things about your son soon too. Sorry, but I really think you need to know how this is going to pan out.
^^^100% agree with Willow -
^^^100% agree with Willow - it's only going to go downhill honey...
Our BS will be three the end
Our BS will be three the end of the month and if he broke something? He would literally run and tell me, while stopping at the closet on his way back to get the broom and "help" clean it up. AND if someone else's hand was cut? He would be sad and offering to "kiss and make it better" or get a bandaid. I'm not trying to say that our BS is so awesome, I'm trying to say that NOT all 3 year olds act like your SS because I bet that is the crap DH is using to excuse his behaviors.
Your DH is teaching SS to have no empathy, no consequences for his actions/inactions and is basically grooming him to be one of the monsters we hear so much about here. Sorry
My son is the exact same way!
My son is the exact same way! He is SO sweet and hugs everyone and I make him apologize when he does something naughty. Last night when SS3 was in the corner my son went over and said "You OK boy? You OK? Mama boy sad!"
Thanks! I agree with
Thanks! I agree with everything you said! I'm going to have a talk with SO but I don't know what to say!
That's good advice! The way I
That's good advice! The way I see it is he doesn't and hasn't in the past "parented" his kid, he just "gets by" and entertains him for the week. I recently discovered that he doesn't make his kids brush their teeth when they are with him! I'll have to have a little chat with him about things.
Yes, it's my house and
Yes, it's my house and usually he does the shopping but I recently told him I'm going to start doing it. He buys the worst junk food! In the past I have always bought healthy food and healthy snacks for my son, but when SO moved in he filled my house with chips and ice cream and frozen chicken nuggets and blah blah man food.
Like I said last night "if
Like I said last night "if you want your kid to be fat and unhealthy that's your problem but I don't want my son to follow your son's behavior."
This is what I did. Worst
This is what I did.
Worst part is, DH complained non stop that BM feeds the kids crap all the time and he hates that - yet turn around and he thinks its fine to feed them chips and juice as a meal. DH fell out of grocery shopping and I don't buy crap. No chips, no cookies, no juice, no candy, no chocolate, no soda. If its in the house, it will be consumed, if its not, it won't be.
The skids and bios get enough crap at the other parents house - they don't need it here and frankly, neither do my hips.
Ok - I agree that your DH is
Ok - I agree that your DH is a total Disney Dad...
BUT - my real question here? What are apple nachos! I feel like I need these in my life.
OMG everyone needs Apple
OMG everyone needs Apple Nachos in their life... every day.
Basically you slice apples so they are like "chips", put them on a plate, sprinkle them with brown sugar, add swirls of caramel and chocolate syrup, top with chocolate chips and walnuts.
Seriously. Best thing ever.
Do you bake them at all? They
Do you bake them at all?
They sound very yummy. And very sweet.
No I don't bake them, though
No I don't bake them, though you could! I just warm up the syrups. YUMMMMMM.
It's not the healthiest
It's not the healthiest that's for sure! The idea is that you're eating apples and we can learn to make "healthy" food fun and yummy too!
LOLOLOL Come on. While the
LOLOLOL
Come on. While the apple nachos sound yummy and fun, they are just as bad as the ice cream SS was eating.
Yes you're right... the point
Yes you're right... the point I was trying to make was that every kid wants ice cream and the little brat got ice cream even after being a butthead about eating his dinner. So after refusing to eat, he is rewarded with corn dogs and ice cream. Kid comfort food. Does that make sense? I know I made a big deal about healthy food but my kid eats healthy and loves veggies so we got to eat good/bad apple nachos.
I agree that the apple nachos
I agree that the apple nachos sound good but they are definately not a healthy choice and shouldn't be treated as one but as rather as a "special" treat.
So many people think that they are eating healthy becasue theybasis of their food is healthy but once you add the sugars and syrups, or ranch dressing for the veggies, or flavor your water, even the zero calorie flavoring, or even your stir fry, depending on how it was cooked and with what, are no longer "healthy".
Kids need to learn that the veggies and fruits actually have a very good taste to them without anything added, but this is best accomplished if they have never known anything different because most kids will want the added ingrediants once they have tried it that way.
Why are the apple nachos
Why are the apple nachos getting attacked? LOL. I shouldn't have even brought them up. I got the recipe yesterday and wanted to try them. Usually for snacks, we eat blueberries or bananas and the occasionally other goodies.
IMO, apple nachos are a fun incentive now and then. Better than eating chips and cookies and ice cream all the time like SS3!
Leave the apple nachos alone, they were good and better than most snacks kids eat.
I think the point that was
I think the point that was trying to be made was the apple nachos are just as bad as the ice cream.
You're trying to say that you are teaching your son how to eat healthy, but sorry, hon, the apple nachos are not a healthy snack.
I could see if you sliced up some apples and you and your son ate them without anything else added to them. But you sprinkle them with brown sugar and add caramel, chocolate syrup, chocolate chips and walnuts.
So you really can't get mad at SO for letting his son eat ice cream when you're letting your son eat apples loaded up with sugar and chocolate syrup.
You're missing the point. The
You're missing the point. The point was that SS3 threw a hissy because he didn't want to eat the dinner I made because he didn't want to eat vegetables. His dad said that's fine don't eat them. THEN he made him a frickin corn dog and ice cream. Like rewarding him with whatever he wanted. I like to make vegetables with dinner because I want my son to have a variety of foods. My son ate all his food including vegetables. I made apple nachos more for me than for my son but he shared them with me. I didn't say I'm superior because I made a 'healthy' snack for us. I meant that SS3 should not have gotten SHIT to eat because he refused to eat his dinner.
"I didn't say I'm superior
"I didn't say I'm superior because I made a 'healthy' snack for us. I meant that SS3 should not have gotten SHIT to eat because he refused to eat his dinner."
Oh okay! thanks for the clarification. And that makes sense.
I'm not attacking, I'm
I'm not attacking, I'm laughing.