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Broken up with SO....... SKID FREE!

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Submitted by xtina on Tue, 02/26/2013 - 3:25pm

I posted awhile back that I was planning on leaving my SO. We lived together, we had just bought a house. I couldn't stand his little brat kids. I mean absolutely despised their existence. I was so miserable every other week when they were with us. My own son was suffering because the skids were so destructive of his stuff and my stuff. I just couldn't take it anymore. Plus, there were a lot of things about SO I just wasn't diggin' anymore.
3 sundays ago, I sat down with my SO and told him I was moving back to my old place, I was unhappy. I told him I felt like when he moved in with me, he just let his kids run all over my house and i was resentful. He completely understood. So I moved out of the house and back to my (still vacant, unrented) apartment. Let me tell you, it felt SO amazing. When I left and took all my and my son's stuff, my EX SO said "Well, that leaves me with nothing for the boys." Literally, my SO was left with his bed, TV, and clothes. LITERALLY that's it. I said "Now do you see why I felt so used and underappreciated and walked all over? When we moved in together, you didn't have squat for your kids and expected them to just take over my son's things." I'm glad he sees my side of it. If he wants to have his kids 50% of the time, he needs to support them and provide for them.
I am SO much more happy now. It's just me and my son and we are back in our routine. My son seems a lot happier too. He is not being picked on or getting his toys stolen and broken.

I think it was the best decision of my life. I thought I was giving up a great guy, but now I look back and see he was just a man-child, looking for a mommy for himself and his kids.

SKID FREE IS THE WAY TO BE!! Seriously, you all should try it sometime!
In the words of Jesse McCartney,
"NO STRESS NO STRESS NO STRESS, GIRL YOU DESERVE NOTHING BUT THE BEST!"

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Submitted by step off already on Tue, 02/26/2013 - 3:49pm

This is great news. It sounds a lot like an exSO that i had as well. Ultimately, he made the decision to move out of a home that I HAD PURCHASED for us. I felt like I was being used and that he was not doing his part at all and was letting him know it more often then not.

Ultimately, he moved back to Mommy's house (he was in late 30's at the time) and has been there ever since...

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Submitted by Anne Boleyn on Tue, 02/26/2013 - 3:51pm

I need to bookmark this in the event I have to make such a decision. One's face can only talk so much and turn so blue.

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Submitted by notagain2012 on Tue, 02/26/2013 - 6:01pm

Sigh....u needed to hear that! Congrats to you...I'm one week into my break up with the skid, and this man is giving me hell! I'm excited to see what 3 weeks brings me..

Plus, apartments are soooo much easier!

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Submitted by Andyandme on Tue, 02/26/2013 - 6:44pm

Wow! Congrats.
I'm almost to that point. As a matter of fact I tried walking out o the relationship a couple time but he turns it around on me am makes me feel guilty and that I'm crazy. We moved in together about 6 months ago I have two kids of my own and he has a daughter of his own we don't have any children together, he moved out of a beautiful home I move out of an apartment so his favorite words to me when I want to walk out on this relationship is that I'm selfish and what did I do I made him leave his beautiful home he lived in(rented) oh and his dagger can't forget her, for she is the reason for most of our arguments we have her every weekend and I wish it wasn't (every). My kids live with us full time. I'm so happy and very loving when she's not here but the minute she comes I'm miserable and don't act like myself. Sometime I wonder if I need professional help?

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Submitted by xtina on Thu, 02/28/2013 - 8:17am

Why should you be the one going crazy when the fights are about his stupid little "dagger" (love that!!)?? Your last sentence "I'm so happy and very loving when she's not here but the minute she comes Im miserable and don't act myself" is the exact reason I left my SO! I was so happy with him when his kids weren't there but the second they were it was like a switch flipped. Even the day or 2 before they showed up was torture. I didn't want to be miserable in my own house. F that. Make yourself happy girl!

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Submitted by Disneyfan on Thu, 02/28/2013 - 8:38am

You all moved into the house and he still didn't purchase beds, pjs, toys....for his kids?????

Glad to hear you you walked away.

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Submitted by xtina on Thu, 02/28/2013 - 11:06am

Nope, he was trying to buy bunk beds but couldn't afford it. They still slept on my couch. Nothing changed, except the roof over our heads. He still is clueless and doesn't think to brush their teeth, or put PJs on them. He still just assumed they could use all my kid's things. When i was moving out I put it like this "I worked hard to be able to provide all the things my son has. I only have one child and you just let your kids come and take over his room, his toys. Nothing was just his anymore and that's not fair." That was the main reason I left. It wasn't fair to my son or to me that all my achievements could just be trampled on by a lazy man who is OK letting his kids ride the coattails of mine.

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Submitted by xtina on Thu, 02/28/2013 - 1:10pm

If I end up back in here later complaining about another relationship with a guy with kids, I want some of you to march to South Dakota and slap the shit out of me! K? PROMISE??