Update:. SD 14 called BM who came to get her. Not sure what abuse stories she told her to make this happen, but YAY for me!!! SO of course is blindly optimistic thinking BM came to get her because she misses her and wants to see her and she will be back next week. 

I do not anticipate this happening as SD squeezed every ounce of money out of SO she could get, she tried very hard to work her unbelievably fake charm on me but received nothing but the cold shoulder. She also received the same from everyone else in this house including her own sister. 

Since she isn't being doted on by anyone other than her broke father and she is not the center of attention, she does not want to be here. At least BMs side of the family finds her trashy behavior cute and funny so she gets attention and told how wonderful she is. 

Here on the other hand we find a 14 year old writing notes on the white board saying, " Y'all Stupid" to be describing the person who wrote it and not amusing or funny. 

So when she left I made SO clean her pig sty of a room.  Low and behold she went into the basement and stole some if his beer and drank it. Of course SO is trying to convince me he wants to talk to her and get her side of the story and I am making a big deal out of it, it's Normal, It's Just a PHASE.

I unloaded on him, everything he was so ignorantly blind to. NORMAL, for a 14 year old to run away, party with 20+ year olds, get high and black out drunk!!! Skip school right in front of you!! Talk to you all day long like she is the adult and you are the child, with absolute disrespect!!! 

He says there is no way his babygirl did those things, he would have heard about it, he knows everyone. Someone would have told him. HA!!  I also get the why wouldn't you tell me? This is the exact reason why! You wouldn't believe me and would say I am making things up and picking on your daughter because I don't like her. Because you would rather not know.

So he calls BM, whose oh so mature response was, " She hasn't done those things in weeks." So he tells her to tell SD we know she stole alcohol and it better never happen again. SO hangs up the phone and pouts as his world crashes down on him that his little princess is not so perfect and that his girlfriend knows more about his daughter than he does.

I then tell him that we are locking the alcohol up from now on and if it ever happens again she is not coming here. It's bad enough everyone in this house has to listen to her mouth and her be disrespectful 24/7.  

His response, " I can't wait to see what you do when DS does the same thing?" First off, I raised my neice and she never acted like that. She is 20 and doesn't drink, she would rather have coffee. Second if DS stole alcohol I would give him something to remember!!!

I said to him that some of her behavior may be NORMAL, some is not, it doesn't matter, because NORMAL parents don't condone the behavior by blissfully ignoring it or condoning it. I expect he treats OSD exactly the same as YSD and handles it!!!