The strike idea some of you suggested is a great idea, but I already tried it and it didn't work. After a week I just ended up having to clean the house because I couldn't take it anymore. I do no longer go into my ss room because it is so disgusting. I used to go in there and clean about once a week but I would spend 2 hours in there.

I thought about having him wash his own laundry but I'm afraid he will break the washer or dryer.

I had to put a lock on the fridge so he would stop eating so much. I would wake up in the middle of the night and find him eating mayo out of the jar, or he'd have a loaf of bread and a tub of butter.

We've gone to counselling, but getting my husband to committ to it was another problem.

I've tried telling him to do things, not even yelling, just a simple hang your towell up or shut the door behind you and my husband then yells at me. He tells me I'm too hard on him and that its my job to take care of him. That he is just a kid and doesn't know any better. lol.

I have no kids of my own and am only 25. I'm trying but I guess I need to try harder. I just feel like I've been thrown into this and I have no parenting experience.

I can't tell ss that if he doesn't straighten back up that he'll go back to live with his bm because that is what he wants. I would love for him to go back to live with his bm, but that isn't going to help anything either.