No son, you don't have to pay your rent to us this month!? HUH??
Our oldest boy, SS22, has been living in our RV 5th wheel for a while, maybe 8 months now. SS22 works on a boat, makes good money (when he works). SS22 pays $600 to the RV park, and $400 to us towards the RV payment. So anyway, SS22 called DH on Friday the March 11th saying he was just laid off from work. UGH. My immediate thought was "laid off"? or got fired?? (SS22 has been written up and suspended a few times at his work for whatever reasons. And we found out SS22 has been paying his ex girlfriend $400/mo for whatever reason. DH hit the roof and told SS to stop paying her.) But anyway, while DH was still on the phone w/SS22, he told him that he could pay us the $400 a week later.
So then the Monday after, March 14th (3 days later), SS22 called DH to say he got his job back That they laid off too many people and they needed him back and was going back to work for them in a few days. He was "unemployed" for about a week, at the most. And mind you, he technically should have had our rent money by the 11th (when he called saying he was laid off) to pay us on the 15th. Once DH told SS22 he could pay rent late, I was like UGH, but ok, I went along w/it so that I'm not the evil stepmom.
So now it's over a week later, I bring up to DH asking the status of SS22 rent to us. He said no, we'll have to eat it and won't worry about the rent this month. UHM WHAT??? Really???? I don't get it. Why doesn't he have to pay rent at all? DH said he's giving him a break. I said technically he should have had the money already, plus he was only unemployed for maybe 5 days. I'm so confused.
We've been using SS22 rent money to put aside for a summer trip with the other 2 boys. And everyone is having a hard time regarding finances, including us. That $400 can be use and would help us out too. But I guess now, I'm not allowed to ask for the $400 rent from SS22 for this month???? I don't understand how DH just lets this "go" without even asking for half of the rent. That's not teaching SS22 anything. So frustrated.
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Yes, could be. IDK. We have
Yes, could be. IDK. We have no clue why. Or what she is holding over his head. Is this hush money? Child support? Paying off her ring (they were engaged and she kept it). Who knows, she's definitely crazy, she could have come up with whatever reason or excuse.
Yes was, brand new 5th wheel
Yes was, brand new 5th wheel Cougar. But when the oilfield tanked, DH changed jobs, and SS broke up w/his girlfriend and needed a place to live. DH and I weren't able to use it much anymore. And yes, I think $600 for rv spot was expensive, but includes all utilities and tv, and allows pets. $400 to us is towards the RV payment. Anywhere else, he was already paying close to $1,000/month in rent alone.
All true. Exactly! SS22
All true. Exactly! SS22 still owes us $353 too from last summer; when he and DH went to ride roller coasters, SS said he'd pay all his way, had the money, etc. Otherwise, DH wouldn't have gone. Turns out, nope, SS22 tells dad after, I'll have to pay you back when I can. UGH I was upset at that one. DH says well guess we'll never see that money again??? Really? WHy?? Why doesn't he hold him responsible??
When DH borrowed money from his mother, my MIL, we paid back every penny. There's no way that MIL would just "blow it off" or write it up to a loss. just don't get it.
DH says he'll remember my bitching about a few hundred dollars when my bioson BS15 moves out and needs help. I'll be like OK, cause that won't happen. I'm teaching my son differently. I've been teaching him money issues, how to earn money, save, spend, etc. since he was 9.
My response would be to smile
My response would be to smile very sweetly at DH and tell him how nice it was of him to do that and ask if he picked up OT or was cutting back on his personal spending to cover the shortfall?
True. Wish I could text SS22
True. Wish I could text SS22 myself and ask for at least half. I asked DH today has he decided what he's going to do re rent, or if he was indeed going to ask for half. His reply was "IDK yet". Uhm, ok.
And I reminded DH today too,
And I reminded DH today too, that SS22 rent money is going towards our summer plans for the other 2 boys. That that money can be used for food, gas, etc. during our summer road trip.
Well, SS22 never paid RV rent
Well, SS22 never paid RV rent on 3/15.
3/28 - DH text SS22 asking for rent money.
3/30 - SS22 told DH that he could probably pay $200-$300 towards RV rent.
3/31 - I text SS22 "just touching base w/you to see when you plan on bringing the RV money by". SS: "I'll try to bring it by on Monday".
4/4 Monday: I text SS22 early a.m. "When do you think you'll be coming by?" SS: Not sure, been busy, I'll try to come by around 7 if I can get off work". Then DH text SS saying "Tina will be home most of the day Tuesday to bring the RV money by." No reply from SS and he never came by. But I saw SS22 post something on snapchat Monday evening at 6:12, he was at some park w/someone. Of course, not working, that was a LIE.
4/5 Tuesday: Never heard from SS all day. I then see where SS posted he was with his friend riding in his friends truck at 4:45 pm. Never heard from him. So I text him that evening "well haven't heard from you today re rv money...will you be bringing it by tomorrow?" Of course no reply
4/6 - DH text SS22 saying "seems like you're brushing us off".
SS: "Sorry Pops, I don't mean too, just busy."
DH: Well, ur almost 2 months behind, which means I'm also behind on the RV. It's called responsibility!"
SS: Yes Sir.
I then asked DH if SS replied and when he planned on coming by. he said IDK. Uhm ok.
WTF?! 3 weeks later and still no rent! And it's 9 days away from SS having to pay this months' rent. I'm getting so frustrated, but it's not for me to DEMAND it from him. And if I did, SS would just have another reason to add to why I'm an evil stepmom and I'm a bitch.