The Good MIL
I should preface this by saying I am a MIL twice over. Both to my son-in-law and daughter-in-law. I also know what it's like to have a pushy mother-in-law. My first husband's mother who was an alpha type personality and "wore the pants in the family" seemed to always have an opinion on everything.
I think she tried hard not to come over as pushy but it was just beyond her scope.
She did a few things behind my back that I did not appreciate as well.
Anyway as a mother-in-law, I am a very laid-back person by nature. I don't offer advice unless asked for. And as a rule I stay out of my adult children's business. This may become more difficult as grandchildren are involved. Personally I have no desire to armchair quarterback my children's parenting.
What are some of the things that annoy you most about your MIL? I am trying to avoid any kind of negative MIL behavior so that I don't become the stereotypical ugh MIL.