Chef's Sibling Wants Him to Make Amends
with his only full brother who rejected him for divorcing the Girhippo. Chef has MANY siblings, half and full. He only has one full brother from his mother and father's (now deceased) last marriages. Chef is the youngest of all 12 or so. Chef will be turning 54 shorlty.
So when I was at my work conference last September,. Chef decided to have dinner with "Mr. (not so) Neutral" who is himself divorced, has always pandered after his now grown DS. Never moved on with another relationship. To do so would probably risk fallout from his own children and the ex-BM 'n' family as is so commonly seen. Same thing with Chef's oldest half brother. And Chef's nephew. I think out of all the boys in the family, and there are many, maybe two have stable relationships counting his nephews. Mr. (not so) Neutral keeps in contact with ALL the exes and skids
When Chef decided to date on the heels of his divorce, his full brother sent him a letter about "honesty" and that he should stick it out "for the sake of the kids" (TM) aka not get divorced. Funny thing the letter was sent using his then company's postage. Too cheap (and dishonest) to send it on his OWN dime.
Well apparently Mr. (not so) Neutral urged Chef to make the "first move" and extend an olive branch to his brother who COMPLETELY took the Girhippo and clan's side! Ummm he's been shunning us for almost 18 years now. Lives about 40 minutes away from us. Of course if they did make amends, this would open up a window to bow and scrape before the PASed out adult skids.
Mr. (not so) Neutral was the same brother who was urging Chef to kiss the Girhippo and skid's collective asses in order to maintain a one-way "relationship" with them. Ummm no again. Chef went out of his way to be an involved father in the early years and because of the intentional sabotage/scorched earth PAS policy on the part of the Gir, that made it impossible. He did drop the rope early on about two years after having CPS called on us. YSS (the housesHitter) now 19, ex communicated himself from visitaiton over a home cooked meal then lied to the Gir saying that we were "forcing him to eat too fast" Of course the Gir believed it hook, line and sinker. Never bothered checking with us for the rest of the story.
it should be noted that Mr. (not so) Neutral only contacts us when he wants something done for next to nothing or free for either him, his family or friends.