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TheWicked's picture

Informal poll: do you go braless at home around skids? Do you take care that skids don't hear you having sex?

Does skids' age and sex make a difference in your choice?

I go braless all the time at home and could careless if the skids hear us having sex. The oldest walked in on us once then went running out of the house screaming at the top of his lungs 'they're naked! They're having SEX!' He went all up and down the street until the old man on the corner got mad and yelled at him.

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confused86's picture

In the mornings I will go braless, I don't care if they are around or not. That's usually the only time though. I'm small chested anyways, so I don't think it really matters!

We will still have sex with skids around too - but we try to keep it down.

notasm3's picture

Triple Ds here too - and now they are old. I need help holding them up.

SS30 utterly grossed me out one time when I had on a form fitting tshirt - he made a comment about how I was "pretty well put together". yuck yuck yuck

notasm3's picture

Do you have a Steinmart near you? They often have 34DDD bras. I've bought some Wacoal bras there. Those are incredibly expensive bras - like $70 but I've gotten them for a little over $20.

Glassslipper's picture

I do kinda go bra-less with skids home. I usually wear a bra, tank top, then shirt. Sometimes I will do just the tank top and shirt, but I'm a B cup at best so you can't tell for the most part with the double layer if I take my bra off or not.

I do care about the sex noise, we close the door, but SS walked in on us once BECAUSE SD told him to...she is funny like that in her little subtle ways. She told SS that Dad was calling him, so he opened the door, bad timing. Oh well. He didn't react poorly and he never opens our closed door anymore after that. lol

Age never made a difference in my decision.

classyNJ's picture

I don't wear a bra all the time. Only if we are leaving the house. I do make sure that I wear tshirt and shorts to bed while they are there. I am a naked sleeper, have a hard time wearing clothes to bed but we leave our bedroom door open while we sleep - if not our furbaby whines all night.

We have sex while they are there but we usually go to bed a lot later than them and those boys can sleep through ANYTHING!

CupAjoe's picture

I don't around my kids, sometimes I don't around his, but usually do to avoid awkwardness.

When anyone's kids are around we wait until after bedtime, not a huge concession considering we have plenty of kid-free time to bang when and where ever with reckless abandon. We've still been walked in on once by his son and once by mine. The one time we didn't wait until after bedtime but no one saw anything and the other time mine woke up after bedtime and I had forgotten to lock the door. Thankfully they were young enough (and we were quick enough recomposing ourselves) that they didn't know what was going on. I feel like that's bound to happen to any parent at some point.

It's not so much I worry about scaring them for life again, I think it happens to everyone at some point it's more that we don't want them telling the ex's they saw us, and have to hear about it.

Indigo's picture

Generally wear a bra to keep the girls from wandering.

BS & SGD have seen lots of kissing & touching over the last few years. I'm good with the PDA, but generally try to downplay the sex. When the kids are around, we keep sex in the bedroom. When they are not here, we have sex everywhere.

CupAjoe's picture

ugh, vacation. I thought it was going to be impossible, but we worked it out a couple of times.

Willow2010's picture

I do not go braless around skids. eeeewww.

And I am sorry but why would you NOT care if other people are hearing you having sex. ESPECIALLY kids!! That is just gross as all get out to think you are ok with skids hearing you and DH having sex!

PrincessCupcake's picture

Sex is a natural function of life, and humans aren't the only animals who do it for enjoyment. Does that mean I go around specifically making it so other people hear me having sex? No. Does that mean I really want my skid to hear my having sex? No. But guess what, life happens, and your kids and skids are going to hear you having sex whether you like it or not. If not you, someone else. SO and I have a very physical relationship. We don't have specific times to have sex just because he's around. Have we quieted down since he's moved in? Sure. But I'm not changing my sex life to accommodate a kid being in the house. I have to take care of myself too, you know. And darn it, sex makes me happy.

As for the bra thing, I don't put one on until I'm headed out for the day. I have DD's as well, and by genetics they have never been perky. But wearing a bra all day is the most uncomfortable thing ever. SS is used to seeing his big-boobed BM without a bra on, so he can deal with me not wearing one. It's not like I'm roaming around the house naked or popping a breast out for the world to see.

Cover1W's picture

I do go braless, but more often in the summer. I'm a D but they are in good shape.
After wearing a bra all day at work and then a sportsbra during the commute (bike riding) I want to be comfy at home! I do tend to wear tighter tank tops that hold them in place or one of my sundresses though. Both have very pretty low necklines. But you know, I am comfortable with myself, the items aren't "over sexy" (just enough for DP) but cute and I want the SDs to see me living happily with my body. They don't get that at BMs who is much more conservative clothing-wise. SD11 loves it when I wear dresses, skirts and especially heels.

Sex when SDs are over? Yes, especially now that their bedrooms are on opposite side of house. DP has to lock that door though, especially after cute sundress wearing/dinner fixing Cover1 is in the room.

BSgoinon's picture

I am small, so I go braless the same if SS is there or not. Doesn't make a difference.

Sex, whenever we want to. Friday after work we snuck upstairs for a quick-y before making dinner. We lock the door and turn the TV on so no one can hear, but they don't dictate our sex life at all. When we want to, we do.

Flying.Purple.Step.Monster's picture

What's sex? :?

PrincessCupcake's picture

If I could find a sports bra that fit me comfortably without being massive piece of fabric that was almost corset like, I'd totally do it. Otherwise, I'm going sans bra.

dragonfly5's picture

Informal poll: do you go braless at home around skids? Do you take care that skids don't hear you having sex?
Great poll: No I do not go braless at home around the skids...the girls are pretty large...don't really to advertise it around ss18 or sd15. But we live where it is hot so halters, bathing suits etc...are an everyday item of clothing.

When the skids aren't there, I love lingerie...so I where what I want.

DH and I are crazy about each other and can't keep our hands off each other...his kids/or mine...no difference we are equal opportunity offenders Smile HEE, HEE, my daughter dropped by the other day and thankfully she rang the door bell..she has learned to. When we did not answer....we didn't hear it. Smile She knew not to come in. It could be any place, in any room and she really doesn't want to see it. HA! The skids know if the door is closed not to knock unless it is an emergency.

My daughter BD33 describes us disgustingly happy! The skids like it too. They know we are happy. I think it makes them secure. Sex is normal kids need to know having a healthy sex life makes for a healthy happy marriage.

CupAjoe's picture

I agree too, and we're *very* affectionate all the time which they've all gotten used to that, BUT most of them are too young to really understand what sex is or looks like and we don't want it getting back to exes. The oldest is just at the point where the mechanics are maybe understood. I'm more than happy to model a healthy relationship, but it does not include them actually seeing sex whether it's us or all-but-porn on tv/movies at this age. When they are all teenagers they will undoubtedly get what's going on and learn one way or another to respect our privacy }:) . At that point they'll make the connection as part of why we're so happy. Until then we need to do our due diligence to ensure they aren't witnessing it. it really doesn't harsh our mellow at all as there is always lots of time for that.

Willow2010's picture

Sex is normal kids need to know having a healthy sex life makes for a healthy happy marriage.
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I totally agree...but that does not mean they have to hear it! lol

If I knew a skid could hear me at my most intimate....I would feel like I was sharing that moment with a skid. GAG!

over step's picture

I don't go braless much when puke (sd15) is here. I sleep with just a naughty at night with bedroom door open just enough for kitty to get through. Wonder if puke would be uncomfortable if I did. *evil grin*

Sex doesn't happen on puke's visits although dh seems more flirty then. Puke snuck in on us having sex pretty new into the relationship. That's when bm started referring to me as the damn girlfriend. I keep thinking how horrified puke would be if she heard us. May step me up to damn wife. *evil laugh*

Last In Line's picture

I wear a bra most of the time whether skids are around or not. Can't stand to feel unsupported.

We don't have sex when the skids are with us. Ever. Ever. Yes, I have major resentment because of this.

Dontcallmemom's picture

I wear a bra. I have big boobs and ss is a pervy 15 year old. I used to not wear a bra all the time, but since ss has been caught looking at porn and stuff, it's just become more apparent that he actually does think about that stuff, duh! I don't give a shit if he looks at porn, I just don't want him checking out my boobs.

What's this "sex" that you speak of?

CupAjoe's picture

Sounds like me, went from a B to an A after kids and bought D's. I don't need to wear a bra, but it's pretty distracting if I don't.

Tuff Noogies's picture

size-wise i'm a decently full handful, more than a, less than b. depends on the cut/shape of the bra which size i go with. if the boys are home, i'll wear a bra. i used to go without, until they started hitting puberty. plus they have friends over at any given time, dont want them noticing if i'm cold and my high-beams are on!!!

intimacy? they live here full time. we just lock the door (it's a keyed lock). and neither of us are very loud anyway. however.... it might be more effective of a deterrent to leave it unlocked - that would definitely fix yss' problem of just walking in w/o knocking! (JUST KIDDING!!!!!!)