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BIG rant about vacation

theoutsider's picture

As I mentioned in another post there is a lot so I'll bullet point

- Also as I mentioned in another blog, FDH made a promise to FSS10 that every other year, starting NEXT year we will go on a week long vacation where we can "really go somewhere" 1. he said this without consulting me 2. DOES HE WANT TO MARRY ME? WE ARE SUPPOSED TO BE PLANNING FOR A WEDDING

-FSD12 was a moody light switch the WHOLE time! Even in the first 30 min when we stopped for something to eat, it wasn't where SHE wanted to eat so she stayed in the car the WHOLE DAMN TIME and didn't get supper. at one point FDH wanted to go get her, and I told him NO THAT IS WHAT SHE WANTS EXTRA ATTENTION just let her pout and MAKE her GET OVER IT. She was fine when we left and came in and asked for a sandwich. ARGH!

-The first night at the hotel, FSD12 went to get clothes out of the bag and glared at me, "YOU DIDN'T PACK ANYTHING FOR ME TO SLEEP IN!" FDH was still unloading the car and didn't see or hear. But I said back, "No, YOU didn't pack anything. I told all 3 of you to get all of your clothes together and put them on the kitchen table and I would put them in the bag. There was nothing left sitting on the kitchen table when we left." She was all pissed off. So she goes into the bathroom and FDH comes in and everything goes on. I get ready to go to bed cant find my short I packed to sleep in... I think, well I must have forgotten them,... next morning and FSD12 has MY SHORTS ON!! AND SHE IS ON HER PERIOD AND BLED IN THEM! AND SHE HAS THE NERVE TO SAY I AM A FAT ASS THAT THEY ARE FALLING OFF OF HER.... so in front of FDH and the other two kids I lost it. I said "FIRST OF ALL YOU DID NOT ASK TO WEAR MY SHORTS, SECOND OF ALL THANK YOU VERY MUCH FOR BLEEDING IN THEM AFTER YOU CLAIMED YOUR PERIOD WAS OVER, THIRD THERE IS A DAMN DRAW STRING ON THE PANTS AND YOU DIDN'T TIE IT SO NO WONDER IT IS FALLING OFF YOUR BUTT!"

-FSS10 cried when they didn't have the dippin dots icecream flavor he wanted, right there in the middle of the park.

-FSS10 made FDH walk him around the morning breakfast buffet at the hotel like a puppy asking him, "do you want sausage, do you want a waffel?" I almost laughed my ass off when another father came in with his daughter right after we sat down and apparently his daughter tried to pull the same thing and he turned to her and said, "you are 8 years old, you do not need me to carry your plate, you can get your own food" I KNOW FDH heard him say it, and I KNOW FSS10 heard him say it. I got up and went to the bathroom for a "contact problem" then

-The whole time walking around the park FDH kept reaching his hand back to hold FSD8 hand while walking in the park.... he never once reached for my hand. During the end of day 2 he did it and I spoke up "does she really have to hold your hand, we aren't crossing a street or anything"

-FSD8 kept sitting on FDH lap EVERYWHERE we were, and one time in the hotel I turned to her and said, "I knew you three kids two years ago right?" she nods "Two years ago FSS10 was 8 right?" she nods "FSS10 didn't sit on dad's lap when he was 8 did he?" she rolls her eyes at me "he didn't"

-FSD8 gets naked everywhere, she just started changing her clothes RIGHT in between us watching TV COMPLETELY naked. I HAD TO NUDGE FDH and then he said something to her,.... I told him later, "Do you want her getting completely naked in front of BM boyfriend???? if not you had better teach her naked boundries RIGHT THE F NOW!"

That's all I can think of right now,... but God,... I couldn't wait to get back to work!

IT IS NOT A VACATION IF YOU ARE LOOKING FORWARD TO GETTING BACK TO WORK!

Comments

realitycheckmom's picture

OMG! Next year you can come on vacation with DD4 and myself. She will be five and I swear I parent this child. She is more independant than your skids. Wow. I cannot imagine if I was you. I would have flipped out more than you did. Sorry it sucked.

Stepbell's picture

Wow! You need a do over vacation. Without the kids!! I really feel for you girl. That's too stressful!!

IslandGal's picture

Next time - let HIM take them all on vacation while you stay home and relax! Man alive! What a nightmare!!

Anne Boleyn's picture

"FDH made a promise to FSS10 that every other year, starting NEXT year we will go on a week long vacation where we can "really go somewhere" 1. he said this without consulting me 2. DOES HE WANT TO MARRY ME? WE ARE SUPPOSED TO BE PLANNING FOR A WEDDING"

Are you living my life?? Smile Seriously, I have a blog on here from a few months ago where I lost my shit over something similar.

You are braver than I. I won't dare attempt a vacation with the kids. The closest was a recent trip to an amusement park for the weekend with the ONLY kid who knows how to act and treats me well (other kids refused to come that weekend so we showered the fun on the one who did). Other than that, unless some serious shit changes with behavior, no way am I going anywhere with the litter of kids.

theoutsider's picture

Lately, I have asked myself this question,... If my love for him is enough, if he is man enough to stand up to his kids, our man enough to stand up to BM.