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Please need help! Anyone know of a good family lawyer in Minnesota?

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Submitted by Sweatheart on Sat, 04/19/2008 - 6:59pm

Desperately in need of someone who can help in dealing with a situation with the psycho BM. Please help!

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Submitted by Sweatheart on Sat, 04/19/2008 - 7:07pm

Need a name-please undersatnd I want to maintain my amnimity.

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Submitted by Chel Bell on Sat, 04/19/2008 - 7:39pm

Not in MN., but maybe of some help, my legal barric was in FL, I know the laws well, what's going on, you sound frantic?? ~"Resist all the urges.... that make you want to go out and kill." ~ Chel.

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Submitted by Sweatheart on Sat, 04/19/2008 - 9:06pm

Well, I should say my husband's situation, because I am considering moving out-can't take it anymore-he can deal with this on his own from now on. His ex (BM) of his two kids has done everything from threaten his life, leave a hand gun out for him to see as an example of how serious she is, routine harrasing phone calls, lies to the community about him, tries to do everything in her power to turn the kids against him & also try to break us apart. This has been going on for over 3 years & he has done NOTHING to stop it. He even erases the threats on the answering machine & rips up the letters-I know-he is a dumb ass! All because I told him I have had it and am looking for an apartment-He FINALLY called a lawyer today & was told that there is nothing he can do to stop her. I don't believe it-there has GOT to be something, even though he has failed to keep proper documentation. Isn't there something he can do? His daughter is such a wreck from this whole thing, she cries several times a day-even in school. BM told the school that it's from the stress of the divorce-She is 9 years old-they were divorced when she was almost 2!! On one hand I feel bad leaving...because I am the only chance those kids have of a normal role model, but on the other hand, my husband's lack of keeping biomom out of our personal life has caused me to loose all respect of him-not to mention a lot of other issues & I have three kids of my own. I want to at least find him a decent lawyer who knows how to fight for him-since he is incapable of standing up to her himself. Could he still at least get a restraining order? I am very depressed & have no interest in harming anyone. I just feel like I have wasted 4 years of my life with this idiot & dragged my poor kids into it too.

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Submitted by smurfy1smile on Sat, 04/19/2008 - 10:15pm

I would try for a restraining order on your part for you and your kids for the harassment and such. No one should live like that or be treated that way. It has to cause both mental and physical problems for all involved. Try contacting a woman's shelter or even legal aid to see where you stand or what you can do. BM is not only harassing BF, she is also messing with you and your kids.

PM me if you need more advise or support. I will do whatever I can to help you or point you in the right direction. Maybe BF is not explaining properly to the lawyer what is going on and what it it doing to your family and sanity.

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Submitted by Sweatheart on Sun, 04/20/2008 - 8:38am

I tried that already, the police said that since the messages (that I had saved) and threats were directed towards my husband, that HE had to be the one to get the order. Since he has no balls, that never did, or will happen. Now I am just trying to decide which is worse, staying and putting up with my spinless husband who does nothing, while his kids get worse and worse, or leave and create a huge disrption in everyone's life.

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Submitted by Most Evil on Sun, 04/20/2008 - 9:04am

Well if you haven't gotten a recommendation yet, why don't you try your local legal aid dept. for free. I personally always like female doctors, etc., they seem to listen to your needs better and also if a BM is normally favored maybe that would be lessened if they were up against another female?

Sorry honey, it sounds miserable for you and I hope you can find some relief however that may be. Our BM is also still instigating emotional outbursts in SD from their divorce 12 years ago, so I and plenty of others here completely understand.

"In the depths of winter I finally learned there was in me an invincible summer." -Albert Camus

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Submitted by Sweatheart on Sun, 04/20/2008 - 4:58pm

I REALLY appreciate everyone's support. At least I know that I am not alone! :)I am so grateful for this forum!

I went to church this morning with just my two kids (my third child is away at college) and it was so nice-just the three of us! I felt like I was in heaven!

I have some big decisions to make (obviously)

I hope you all have a wonderful week!