Had a scan yesterday, all is well and baby is good strong and healthy.........and a boy!!! Now for those who have read my blogs, this is something i wanted as I have a DD7, and a little completes me......but as you can guess, the bedroom factor is about to flare up and Im not sure how its going to be handled..I wouldnt mind, but I genuinely dont get the issue really, to me its an obvious and foregone conclusion that would happen whether I had a boy or girl........

So, to re-cap; I have a 3 bed property, OH moved in with his clothes. DD7 has her own room, so there is a spare room. Due to space when SD7 stayed in DD7's room, and as SS's didn't bother stopping anymore I suggested moving SD7 into the "spare" room. SD7 was at the time living at her nans and sharing her nans bed, so had no personal space, so to me, letting SD7 have the spare room was a gesture that would help as well as giving DD7 her room and importantly, the space within the room back. So SD7's bed was moved,. and furniture was gathered along the way for her and the room became SD7's....SD7 DOES NOT live with us, she sleeps over ONCE A WEEK ONLY.

So at 3 1/2 months pregnant, I asked OH how we were to work the rooms out, he said "we dont need to think about that right now" and I replied "well if its a boy then the decision is made anyway, given my DD7 and SD7"...and and that was that.....

SD7 has 3 times over the last few months, stated the same thing on different occasions, and Im concerned....at the moment SD7 is extremely excited about the prospect of a new brother (but I dont think she will be when she knows she wont have a bedroom anymore!). When there have been chats about toys or whatever to do with my home, SD7 says "NO! Cos we dont whose room baby will be sharing!".....Im not sure where SD7 has gotten the impression that baby will be fitted in around her and DD7, but thats what she has. Is this a normal reaction? Or one that has been told to her as sorts?

As it stands, with the baby being a boy, its a foregone conclusion. I dont believe that SD7 has a right to any bedroom under my roof, not because its my roof, but simply because she doesnt live with us. I believe that the children who live under my roof take priority, including SD7 IF she lived with us. Im not sure how the conversation will go, especially as SD7 is expectant of having exactly the same as DD7 under my roof. She doesnt seem to get (even though she has been told and will openly tell you herself) that she doesnt live with us so wont get the same, or be entitled to the same.

Im concerned the conversation with OH is going to pear shaped when I state that I dont want SD7's bed in DD7's bedroom, as it takes up, literally, the rest of the floor space. NEITHER of the girls will be able to play in the bedroom, and toys have been stopped from being bought downstairs because SD7 doesnt tidy up after herself. I firmly believe that DD7 MUST be catered to as the priority in her own room, and that SD7 is the one that has to be "fitted" in.

Im not trying to push her out, but she has to understand that she wont have her own space in my home anymore, thats what her own home is for, the same as my home is that sanctuary for my DD and soon to be DS.