Well last night I finally suggested therapy for ss15 to dh. His response was "I am too tired to discuss this tonight, *sigh*. He had therapy when the divorce first happened. School is starting soon and he can talk to the counselor there".

I am so tired of ss15's attitude. He is so disfunctional. I dislike how he just refuses to talk. He "agrees" (In a sarcastic manner) with everything I ask or say but then doesn't follow any rules. He just blatently does his own thing around here and follows his own set of rules. When I ask him to do something or stop doing something he agreees with me and then goes ahead and does whatever the hell he wants to do. He is so freakin lazy and sloppy.

Last night I made a big baked salmon dinner with mashed potatoes and salad, etc. and he refused to come down to eat. Then later in the evening after dh and I had gone to bed he came down and ate the whole bucket of potatoes I had saved (enough for another meal for all of us) and then left everything sitting on the coffee table.

I understand he needs to eat and he needs to live in our home, what is bothering me the most right now is his complete disregard for my requests and for my place in the home. I can tell he absolutely dislikes me and avoids me at all costs. But then I KNOW he avoids me b/c I think he picks up the vibs of my dislike for him. I never ask of him more then I ask of my own boys. I never treat him any different then my own, ie. chores and hanging around all summer doing nada. I am normally a very tolerant person but I am also passive aggressive in that I will just ignore things until it bothers me beyond words and then I explode. When I explode I don't even yell I just say something like:

ss15: comes down the stairs at 2pm having just got up after being up until 5am.
me: "if I ever smell piss in my sink again you will lose your computer for a month"
ss15: "I didn't piss in the sink"
me: well I can't prove it bc you're up all night and I am not, but there is piss smell in my sink and I am certain bs didn't do it and you have a reputation of pissing everywhere and anywhere, so... again, if I smell piss in the sink again you will lose your computer, period"
ss15 stomps off to his room and slams door. Doesn't show is face again until 9pm. He comes down stairs thinking I was already in my room and I was still cleaning kitchen, setting up coffee pot etc. He sees me and takes off up the stairs and runs into his room and slams the door again.
Then all night we hear his door being slammed every once in awhile b/c as usual he is awake all freakin night playing UNMONITORED on the xbox.
DH at 5 am hears a door slam and says he is going to take all the boys' doors off today. I mumble that it's ss15 and not my boys. He grumbles that I am always picking on ss and we have to treat everyone equally.
Fuck that. My boys don't piss in the sink or stay up all night so what part of the doors coming off their rooms is fair?

So when I suggest therapy I am really thinking ss15 is just not doing well in my care. He is very angry and hateful and hates women b/c of what bm did to him all his younger years - and I get to reap the benefits of his anger. yay.