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Is it too much to ask to NOT have to dogs sleep in my room???

sterlingsilver's picture

I'm just curious how many of you smoms let the dogs sleep in the master room? I currently have 2 dogs sleeping in our room, the shitzu is in a cage and pit on the floor at the foot of our bed. There are 2 problems for me having the dogs in our room, 1st is that the shitzu has a very unusual odor that is not like a normal dog more like a rotten sock and back of fritos all in one (oh and throw in some blue cheese), 2nd is that every time we decide to have sex the dogs get restless and start whining and in the shitzu's case yipping. For awhile the shitzu slept with ss15 until he decided it's dad's dog and he had better things to do then care for a dog that we originally got for him. I just got the pit about 3 months ago b/c she reminded me of the dog I had gotten for my kids many years ago that my ex made us get rid of. So now I am stuck with both in my room when both are really meant for the kids. Last night the shitzu pooped in his cage, then ate the poop and then yakked it all up and it was stinking. I said to DH "wake up and take care of your dog, he pooped and puked" (this has happened often). Well he says it doesn't stink just go back to sleep. Well I am not going to sleep in a stinky room and I am not going to clean up the mess, so I went to sleep in my son's room b/c he's over at a friend's. DH went back to sleep. About an hour later I have to pee so I went back into our room to use the bathroom b/c I am not going to use the boys toilet and it stunk inour room. I wake DH up and say how nice it is that he puts his dog over his wife and now I cannot sleep in my own bed b/c of a frickin little SHITzu. He gets up and growls and says I am a controling bitch and all I want is for everyone to do what I want them to do and on and on. I jsut went back to my son's room and went to bed. I hear DH going down the stairs with the cage and all and complaining like crazy. He stayed up the rest of the night watching tv and cuddling with his freakin SHITzu on the couch. Actually my whole house smells like dog and I just want my room to not smell like dog. One place I can have for a smell free sactuary, but that is too much for me to ask according to DH. He's never met someone who has a nose like mine that can smeel every little thing. You know I never had a nose problem until I met DH and his son's who reak and now his little SHITzu who reaks. Funny how suddenly since meeting them I am OCD about odors. I work with seniors and have cleaned up some pretty foul messes in my life but the smell of a shitzu trumps all :sick:
So after all that, my question is, how many have dogs sleep in their room with them and if not where do the dogs sleep and is it asking too much for the dogs to sleep in kids' rooms or downstairs???

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Anywho78's picture

Hi Sterling,

I have two dogs. They are 10 & 11 year old border collies. They are my babies & yes, they sleep in my room. SO didn't want them in there when we moved in together but I figure I put up with enough of HIS crap so he can deal with my two dogs being in the bedroom. My female dog sleeps on the floor on her little poofy pillow bed while my male dog sleeps either on his poofy pillow or on the bed at my feet.

My male dog does get obnoxious when SO & I get frisky...easy fix? I stick him into the master bathroom until I am ready to sleep. My female doesn't give a flying hootenanny about what SO & I do, so she's usually fine in her little corner of the world.

If the Shitzu sleeps in a kennel already, I see no reason why she has to be in your bedroom (a small dog kennel can be stuck anywhere). The pit is your dog if I understood it correctly...I don't see why you wouldn't be able to decide about where that one sleeps on your own...

I personally prefer NOT to have dogs sleep with the Skids because 1. my male dog would bully the Skids out of bed 2. my female may get snippy if woken up (kids get bitten that way) & 3. I prefer to monitor & supervise at least most interactions between the Skids & dogs because the Skids can be turds & so can the dogs.

Sorry your shitzu is a stink pot...not sure about what to say aside from suggest regular bathing & washing of kennel bedding.

Good luck!

12yrstepmonster's picture

I have three dogs currently. The 10 year old foams the house, the two males that are 2 yrs old and chew so the are in crates in my living room. I would prefer that they roam but they have a little more age needed to mellow.

Lalena75's picture

I have 1 dog he's a medium sized (toy fox terrier and Alaskan malamute). He sleeps in the living room, he's extremely housebroken but I just don't want him in my bed that's the cats territory and he always tries to chase them the few times I've let him in there. My SO always invites the dog when he takes a nap, if my dd has a friend spend the night she will take him to her room (he will whine for hours because there is someone new in the house he wants attention from) But I won't sleep with him in my bed it's the one room in the house that I just don't want him in.

sterlingsilver's picture

Thanks ladies. Maybe I am just too sensitive and need to just relax. I bathe the shitzu weekly and wash his bedding but it's like with skids, I want to disengage b/c it's not mine but then no one cares for the poor little creep. When I disengage from ss15 his room gets reaky and laundry never done. Why is it that DH's having it so good when they remarry, us new wives take care of the brats and their pets. Sad JUST so we can survive in our own home :/

NCMilGal's picture

We have two dogs, but they're a hound and a hound/short-coated terrier mix, so they're very slick-coated. The dog breath can be impressive, and they are oily-coated, so they start to smell doggy after a while, but they don't have that mass of hair, and they're flea-free, so they're not constantly chewing or licking on themselves. A bath once a month or so keeps them clean enough to be unnoticeable to the nose.

I remember my childhood lhasa apso stunk horribly, and I think it was because she was constantly chewing fleas, which spread the stinky bacteria into her fur immediately.

Our dogs are trained well enough that they stay OFF the furniture, including beds, unless they are invited. That being said, our big hound wants to be within sight of his people at all times, so he sleeps in a dog bed in our bedroom.

I'm concerned that the shitzu isn't properly kennel trained, or is in a crate too big for him. A crate should be just big enough to stand and turn around in, no bigger. The dog should see the crate as his bed. Dogs should NOT be pooping in their beds. That's why you partition off full-sized crates for puppies, for crate/house training.

Nightshade's picture

Have you had the dog's ears checked? Sometimes if they have an ear infection, it can smell really bad.

sammmx's picture

My dog sleeps in a crate in the basement... She has a habit of getting into the garbage so it's just easier to keep her locked up. She loves her crate anyway, always has. Even before I moved in with BF she would choose to sleep in her crate at night, but I was able to control the garbage situation when I lived in my apartment so I just left the door to the crate open then.

No way in hell I'd let some stinky dog sleep in my bed. Even f she didn't stink... My dog is a greyhound though lol

Anywho78's picture

I spoke to a friend of mine who is a small breed fanatic (border, trainer, owner)...she said that you will have a less stinky dog if her hair is kept short & that it sounds like your dog may need a check up or walks in the middle of the night (sorry!) as small dogs tend to be unable to hold it as long as larger breeds. I concur with other posters about the kennel/pooping issue. My female LOVES her kennel & has only ever had accidents when she was sick.

My earlier post stated that my dogs sleep in my room with me...bearing in mind, they are senior dogs now & no longer chew on anything. Neither one has had accidents in years.

If either one of my dogs stunk like what you are describing, I would not have them in my room. Both of mine do have kennels (from their younger years of not being good enough to have free reign of the house) & they use them as their "rooms" when they want to be left alone but either one is fine sleeping in them too. Their kennels are in the laundry room & not in my bedroom.

I understand how frustrating this must be for you.

Good luck!

sterlingsilver's picture

The shitzu is trained but once in awhile we forget to feed the dogs until later in the evening and then shitzu has to poo and if his whining doesn't wake us he'll poo and then feels guilty (?) so he eats it? Maybe THAT's why he stinks. Anyhow, it seems everyone is either pro or con dogs sleeping in room, on beds or not or not in room. It's each to their own on this topic! lol
I was also researching smell sensitivities and am sorta thinking that there is just a certain time of the month that I am ultra sensitive to all smells ie, dogs, socks, feet, couches, stepsons, etc.
I just think it's weird how I never smell my own kids. Which makes me think that DH probably never smells his own kids.
It's probably called something like familial odor tolerance!!!

imjustthemaid's picture

We have 2 pugs. They are my babies and sleep cuddles up with me all night. One snores and the other farts!!
Sometimes DH gets annoyed but the funny thing is when we start fooling around they automatically go to the foot of the bed and sulk!! Then they ignore us the rest of the night!!

Shaman29's picture

We have two cats. One is mine and the other is DH's and his kids. They were kicked out of our bedroom when we first moved in together because they fought (at the time I had two cats, he had one). After my older female died, the other two started marking territory upstairs. They have since been banned from upstairs and it's a pet free zone.

I feel the same way about pets as I do kids. They have no business in my bedroom. I love my fur babies but I don't want to sleep with them. Even when I was single.

Put all both in their own sleep area, that way you can't be accuses of favoritism.

Purplemom's picture

Ok, the crazy dog lady is coming out here.... I have done health rescue for about 10 years (bald dogs, demodex dogs, feral cats etc), and I work for a pet food company..... I know dogs...

What are your dogs eating? I ask because with the odor you describe and the tummy issues it sounds like your shih may have yeast or food issues (which can be relates to food allergies) food issues would also explain the tummy issues. Message me if you don't want to answer here..... there may be other solutions to this Smile

I currently have one dog ( a pit mix) she sleeps in my room sometimes, others she sleeps in the kids room, others in her crate.... it depends on what is going on at the time.

sasha101's picture

We have 2 Staffordshire bull terrier girls which aren't particularly big or hairy dogs. The younger one sleeps on our bed and the older one has her own bed on the floor next to me. Sometimes she sneaks up during the night and we wake up with both dogs in between us. I don't mind because they're my babies and I like to snuggle with them. They just jump off the bed and go to sleep in a corner if we have sex so they're no trouble. If there's a doggy smell, I don't notice it because I'm probably so used to it, but I do like to wash my bedding regularly.