This was my original blog entry...
I have a question for anyone who may have the answer?? When do the weekend visits stop? At what age are the SK's no longer interested? By the time my children were 13, 14 & 17 the could've cared less to go to their Dad's. I just wondered has anyone been through it & know how much time I still have to do???? LOL

I received an overwhelming number of responses some good & some bad. I'm not upset or offended by anyone's posts. I feel people should be honest. I just wanted someone's opinion that may have been doing this for longer than I have. I've only been in it for 2 years. & yes at times it does feel like a prison sentence. At first I tried so hard to be there all the time & my own kids felt completely neglected especially since he has nothing to do with anything that happens in their lives. Yes they are older but they're still my children. So that being said I don't like my SK's & I never will. I do feel sorry for them. But it has been made perfectly clear to me I have no say & never will. I'm speaking of the 2 older ones. He has a 7 year old to a different mother & she is nothing like the older two children. She has manners, respect for others & has been taught hygiene & home training. But the 2 oldest ones......There's no hope. I've discussed their BM with him so many times. I've tried to help the situation. I told him about the pee meds & he talked to her & she had them put on it for a couple of months but it's just too much for her to take them to the Dr. & get it refilled so they haven't taken it in a year. The BM is so trashy & neglectful. But he doesn't want them full time because that would inconvenience him. He said he's argued with her over & over about how they stink & arn't taken care of properly but it's just easier for him to deal with it that argue with her. I blame him as well & he knows it. He knows he's wrong. If he cared so much he would do something about it. They are his kids! It's a totally messed up situation. I'm sorry if anyone took my post wrong. I just wanted honest answers & I believe I got them.
Furthermore, let me say that my fiancee moved in with me in my 3 bedroom home where my kids already had their own rooms. His kids do not have rooms. The 2 oldest can't sleep in beds anyway because they pee & ruin all mattresses. They sleep on roll out beds in my living room. He had lived in a 4 bedroom apt. with his mother for years prior to moving in with me & his mother primarily took care of his children. When he decided to move in with me, his mother went to live with his brother. But she was at my house most of the time so she could watch his 3 children while we worked. I finally put a stop to that. There was just too many people in the house. The kids were sleeping on roll out beds & the mother on my couch, 5 days out of a week. Summer was horrible. I would come home from work & my house would be trashed. I finally talked him into helping his mother get her own place & that elimated her at my house & the kids only come on weekends now because we both work. But let me say I pay every & all the bills. He has to pay CS in 2 different states. Past support in one & current in another. So needless to say I'm broke taking care of him & his kids while BM gets his entire check every 2 weeks for child support & $700.00 in food stamps...I guess I didn't explain the entire situation in my 1st brief post. We can't move to a bigger place because I can't afford it. He can't help because BM gets everything. What's really sad is his 7 yr. old gets nothing...I hope this clarifies some things for some of you who responded negatively & positively. Thanks for all the input & comments.