Am I doing the right thing??
This is my first post *Wave*
I guess I'm looking for some advice or perhaps some clarity.
My ex (whom I am currently still living with, until my house is ready to move into) left me twice for his ex wife (SS bio mother) in the last 3 months. I am moving out with our bio son who is 1 years old. I was all set, even though my ex is currently trying to get me to take him back. My mind was made up, that me and DS were going to start a new. But...During the time since him breaking us off, his son(SS) has come to live with him. He is a sweet lad, but he has a few issues, we are unsure whether it is ADHD or something else under the Autism umbrella. I have no problem if he is dealing with either of these, as my Dad and brother have Aspergers/High functioning Autism, plus I have worked with young children the same age as SS who is 5. This might also be why I spotted it, as did his paternal grandmother who has worked with children and adults with Autism. I am glad we have noticed it, as we will be able to get him help and/or support sooner in his life to help him. His Mum denies that there is anything going on related to his behaviors and Autism.
Something is making me think I should stay for this little boy, even though some of his behaviors affect mine and his Dad's relationship. On the other hand I think I should go, as his Dad doesn't like me telling him off. His behavior is starting to affect my DS, as SS hates being touched or any of his toys being touched. This would be fair enough, if SS didn't think that he doesn't have to share his toys, but that DS does. We've tried the if you don't share then you can't expect to have toys shared with you. But he just isn't getting it. To the point where he came into the front room the other day saying "This teddy is mine, my teddy, mine, mine!!". This was out of no where. No one had said he had to share it, and DS was no where near him, playing with his own toys. He also makes noises for cars, bikes and monster trucks in the back of his throat. it sounds painful and is very loud. Now DS has picked this up and started doing it. DS used to make a normal Brumm Brumm noise. If DS is copying this already, I really don't want him copying everything. Especially the ticks like hand flapping, finger clicking, spinning in circles, running laps from one room to the other over and over. I guess I just need to vent and maybe get some other peoples perspective on this.
Thanks for listening. x