Excessive talking
Is excessive talking okay? Do you ever just what to tell ur sKid to shut up? Not going to lie - I WANT TO!
Grant it I have not been feeling well so my tolerance is at an all time low. I think he does it because he is tired and it's something to do to keep him awake or he has ADD or is just looking for attention (very likely). And most of the time he just repeats himself or makes up some random story about something no one cares about.
At the park one day he was running his mouth and he kept asking me to name some Pokemon, I told him like 5 times that I don't know anything about Pokemon! After he kept asking I just started to ignore him and he just kept talking to himself.
I have been working with him on not interrupting when adults are talking or when someone is on the phone but he still struggles with those, I am constantly reminding him. He is also really bad about answering questions that aren't directed at him. I can ask SS4 a question (using his name) and SS6 answer 9 times out of 10. One time I asked SS4 if he needed a diaper change (before he got him potty trained) and SS6 answered that he did not need one. lol.
It hit me last night the DH doesn't see an issue with it. DH was in the bathroom at the end of the hall and SS6 was in his room mid-way down the hall and SS6 was yelling down the hall to DH what he was doing in his room (total play by play). I told him to knock it off and wait for DH to get done in the bathroom to which DH called back that he was fine, he was listening to him. I told him that we don't do that and no yelling across the house - something else SS6 loves to do.
Later that night DH snapped at SS6 at the dinner table because he was talking and not eating, so after they went to bed I brought it up and DH said it was 'cute'. I told him I found it annoying and I struggle to be nice about it. God some times I just what to tell him to shut up - but instead i 'shhhhhh' him a lot. 
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Some kids are just talkers. I
Some kids are just talkers.
I was.
My SD is like that..... She
My SD is like that..... She will talk and talk until she is.literally panting for breath.... And keep talking. I timed her once picking her up from school. 18 minutes before I just couldn't take it anymore, and had to tell her to take a break. She doesn't even pause for a breath, cause heaven forbid someone take that pause to mean they can say something.
And that whole 18 minutes, not one thing was important, interesting, or informational. It's just diarreah of the.mouth. talking for the sake of talking.
SS does it too, but not nearly as bad.
lol I told SS to take a break
lol I told SS to take a break once and rest his jaws - he told me they weren't tired so I told him my ears were.
I am usually quiet myself and
I am usually quiet myself and FDH says it's just his age. Like you I think it should me corrected at times.
if he is really tired and I shhh him too much he has started to cry. He cries easy when he is tired. He is also bad about blabbing when we are in the car to take him to BM's. I shh him there because some of the things he tends to say upsets FDH.
My dd12 is that way. God
My dd12 is that way. God help me if she is tired AND forgot her ADD meds *cringe*
It can destroy your last nerve in 2.3 seconds.
Oh God SD5 does this all the
Oh God SD5 does this all the time. We sit there trying to watch tv and she's constantly talking/singing and its very annoying. SO will tell her to shush up or tell her if she wants to chat, please go to the room. But she just looks up at him and continues on. One time I lost it and told her to shut it and she was quiet and went into her room. I couldn't help it. I was annoyed beyond belief.
Make a few rules: No talking
Make a few rules:
No talking in the car (turn the radio on to something they hate if they speak)
No talking when TV is on (turn off the TV if they can't keep quiet)
No talking when someone is on the phone (turn your back to them and completely ignore, timeout when you finish your convo if they continue)
No talking when someone is reading (pick up a book whenever you've had enough)
No talking from one room to the other (completely ignore any requests being shouted from another room)
I don't really have that
I don't really have that problem with SS4. He has learned at BM's house that if he doesn't talk, he will get his way. (When he gets upset, he pouts and doesn't talk.) He is learning, very slowly, that if he does that with DH and I, we will just send him to his room to pout.
Me: SS, what's wrong?
SS: pouting on the sofa, doesn't respond
Me: SS, if you don't tell me what's wrong, I can't help you.
SS: still pouting, no response.
DH: SS, if you are going to pout, do it in your room.
SS: Nuffin is wrong.
DH: Then why are you pouting.
SS: I'm not.
It happens usually when I tell him he has watched enough TV and turn it off.
I just had this discussion
I just had this discussion with dh about ss14 this morning. He's 14-you'd think he'd get it by now. but no. He gets up in the morning and never shuts his mouth until he leaves for school. Now dont misunderstand he is not actually talking to anyone (as noone else feels like chatting or listening to him in the morning)-he will either talk or sing AT THE TOP OF HIS LUNGS all morning-to himself. I am downstairs and I can hear word for word every single thing he says or sings. My kids have tried to ask him to please be quiet-to which he will scream and did this morning "No I DONT HAVE TO!" To which I then told him to shut the hell up. I was tired of hearing him all morning every morning and that it was enough. Last night was the lecture about the "inside" voice. He screams everything. He is constantly running his mouth at full volume. Doesnt matter if he's mad, happy, sad-He just cant shut it. Weve really been hitting him hard the last couple of days about how RUDE this is. And he completely doesnt act like he gets it all.
Everyone in the household has taken to locking themselves in the room or coming down in the basement (which is supposed to be off limits to him),dh goes out to the shed as noone can stand to be around his obnoxious self. I told dh I wasnt trying to be meanb-but if we all have this reaction to him so does everyone at school and out in the real world. He needs to know that his obnoxious behavior will keep people away from him.
Urgh. My SD is the same way,
Urgh. My SD is the same way, except FDH also finds it highly annoying. She talks for the hell of hearing her own voice and it is sooo annoying. But then, if she asks a question, we won't even be able to make it through the whole answer before she's like "what?". OMG. Sometimes I wonder why I even bother talking to her. She interrupts conversations, phone calls, takes an hour to eat b/c she won't shut the F up. We've been working with her though and it's slowly getting better.
Yeah we are working on it too
Yeah we are working on it too but it's a very slow process.
My son is a talker (I have no
My son is a talker (I have no idea where he gets it from }:) ) Sometimes I have to tell him to shush it.
Sometimes when one of my SO's kids keeps talking it gets on my nerves more than my own son doing it..but you know, it goes with the territory.
SS5 is a talker. He talks so
SS5 is a talker. He talks so much that he has difficulty completing any activity that requires the use of his mouth for something other than talking. Brushing teeth? Eating? Drinking. It's a challenge.
Even worse, he can't just talk, he expects constant responses and affirmations of all his statements. So you can't tune him out completely. I do get by with a lot of "Oh yah?" and "Huh" and "Weird!" which I insert at intervals without really knowing what he's saying. He hasn't noticed yet.
My SD8 is the same - talking
My SD8 is the same - talking just to hear her own voice! Not even halfway through her first sentence, I zone out and I don't even think she can tell that I'm not listening to her. She talks like she's got something important to say when it's all about her mother or her (SD)"boyfriends" or kids/teachers at school she doesn't like (which is basically ALL of them!). All I really want to say to her is "I...DON'T...CARE..." :sick: And I can always tell when she's not done (and intends to keep going) just by the tone of her voice, at which point I start sleeping with my eyes open LOL It was really bad 2 weekends ago because I was sick and stuffed up - my patience level was already at zero, but it sure found it's way into the negative numbers! My patience level with my own son isn't that high, either, because it takes him a while to get to the point and when I'm in the middle of doing stuff (which is when he decides to come and talk to me) I always find myself "mm-hm"ing away to try to get him to get...to...the...point! :S
I just scrolled to comment
I just scrolled to comment but I tell my own bios to "shut up" sometimes when I just can't stand the bickering or back talk or general noise. I've told SO's kids to shut up when they've been warned to be quite or stop bickering etc. As adults we get the privilege to say "shut up"